Not exact matches
I suspect that if you took spousal and child abuse statistics in the US (and account at least a little bit for what goes unreported), you'd probably find that the spectrum of our «Christian» nation doesn't exactly have a lot to brag
about either (but of course anyone who abuses children or
spouse can't POSSIBLY be a «true Christian»... and I
hope you see the irony in that remark).
(Abingdon, 1966) 1 wrote
about a group of nine clergy
spouses who met weekly to share their
hopes and hurts, difficulties and dreams.
Of the singles that we talked with, the happiest ones all shared one common trait: They did what they were dreaming
about, even if that meant doing it without the
spouse they originally
hoped to have.
Assume nothing will change: Many people enter into a marriage
hoping they'll be able to change certain things
about their
spouse — a nip here or a tuck there, a few little things to improve the package.
If you're uncomfortable
about having a serious conversation
about life insurance with your
spouse and unsure
about how and when to approach the subject, we
hope the following suggestions will help:
Avoid pointing out areas where you
hope your
spouse will benefit or making your
spouse feel like marriage counseling is all
about fixing her, recommends licensed couples social worker Jon Meyerson in his Social Work Today article, «Success With Couples Therapy — A Step - by - Step Approach.»
FR militants will drone endlessly on
about a non-issue they call Parental Alienation Syndrome and another they call Malicious Mother Syndrome, and demand evaluation after evaluation, in
hopes of finding someone, anyone, to take their sick side, or failing that, of running the
spouse completely out of financial and emotional resources, so that she can no longer do battle on a level footing.
In the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. Gottman identifies a Love Map as the place in the brain where one stores details
about their
spouse's history, interests, fears,
hopes, and goals.
Sometimes, in an attempt to be nice, the non-reluctant
spouse sends mixed signals
about divorce and gives their partner a reason to hold onto
hope that the divorce won't happen.
In sessions, you will have a safe and confidential place to talk
about your beliefs, fears, values,
hopes and dreams and learn even more
about your future
spouse.
Then, we walk you through the five barriers to
hope that you may be feeling
about your
spouse and your marriage.
Especially during late adulthood when people experience losses in resources required for goal pursuit (e.g., health, income, cognitive abilities; Freund & Riediger, 2001; Jopp & Smith, 2006), couples may benefit from sharing possible selves, that is, from both
spouses hoping to bring
about or seeking to prevent similar future events or outcomes.
Whether your fighting with your
spouse, feeling frustrated with your children or worried
about the quality of your family life, therapy is a place to start to find
hope again and make steps towards new beginnings.
A good mediator will not give you false
hopes, but will be up front and honest
about what is required of you and your
spouse for the mediation to be a success.
In fact, some jurisdictions make it mandatory for
spouses to learn
about divorce mediation upon filing for divorce, in the
hopes that they'll amicably settle their differences outside of court.
It is very important for couples to talk
about their goals, values, and
hopes and dreams prior to getting married to ensure that these will be compatible with their future
spouse's ambitions.