A quick way to break down trust and make
your spouse feel betrayed is to lie about money.
Not exact matches
The pain that this causes, Lieberman says, is similar to what we might
feel if our
spouse betrays or cheats on us.
Its also common for widows and widowers to
feel hesitant about dating again for fear of emotionally
betraying their
spouses, not mourning them with respect.
The
betraying partner can see how hard it is for the hurting
spouse to control the
feelings and compassion may ensue.
A
betrayed spouse may insist that their partner just wanted cheap thrills on the side, while the cheater may say that they strayed because they
felt neglected.
Many
betrayed spouses feel there is no way to rebuild trust and decide to end the relationship.
In such marriages, one
spouse likely
feels betrayed, vulnerable, worthless, angry, and possibly depressed; the other
spouse may
feel guilty about ending the marriage and yet angry about the relentless blame and clinging behavior of his or her
spouse.
Most individuals end up in a shock period where hundreds of emotions culminate, making the
betrayed spouse feel confused and helpless.
Wanting to believe it is a nightmare, the
betrayed spouse may have difficulty with ongoing
feelings of anger, resentment and betrayal, which may also make it difficult to listen to her
spouse, even if she wishes to repair their marriage.
Whether your
spouse betrayed you, or whether you are simply trying to wrap your head around the fact that the marriage you thought you would be in forever is now over, your pain is off - the - charts bad, and you
feel it 24/7.
When your
spouse works with their affair partner, the goal is to become a team, working together to make the
betrayed partner
feel safe and loved.
The emotional fallout from infidelity is considerable — the
betrayed spouse / partner often
feels traumatized by the betrayal;
It's up to the unfaithful
spouse to make the
betrayed spouse feel loved, cherished, reassured and special again.
«Research shows that if the
betrayed spouse needs to process what happened or talk about
feelings, healing won't happen unless the unfaithful
spouse is willing to participate in the conversation openly and honestly, in a reassuring way,» she said.
This is a romantic portrayal, however, and the reality is
spouses of unfaithful dementia patients
feel betrayed.
Sometimes a
spouse will come to divorce mediation
feeling hurt, wounded,
betrayed or deceived by their
spouse.
If your
spouse won't go to marriage counseling, you might
feel betrayed or unwanted, but pushing your
spouse into counseling against his or her will can be just as damaging as the problems that led you to therapy in the first place.
This is another way to help the
betrayed spouse feel at ease with the truth the betrayer is telling them.
Once a
spouse discovers a lawyer is already involved, he or she
feel s
betrayed and defensive.
You're trying to love and support your
spouse, and at the same time you
feel betrayed, angry, and resentful that you now have this life - changing challenge you really don't want.