Not exact matches
Once the two are together in a conversation, topics may begin innocently, which once again, in and of itself is not immoral, but often times innocent topics lead to discussing topics that typically are reserved for
spouses, such as
feelings and
desires.
The nagging
spouse is really asking to
feel more wanted,
desired, special, or loved, and the retreating
spouse is really trying to protect the relationship from harm or destruction, fearing that the barrage of criticisms might eventually lead their partner to leave them.
Provide a method for helping the high
desire spouse share
feelings of hurt and rejection while guiding the low -
desire spouse to empathically listen to the deeper needs of their partner
Greatly helps me understand that many disagreements are not fueled by the present situation, but by a
spouses»
desire to
feel connected, safe, and as if he / she matters.
These are the people who sacrifice their
feelings,
desires, and needs for the good of the marriage, the job, the family, and the
spouse.
Do you
feel safe enough emotionally with your
spouse / partner to fully express your sexual needs and
desires?
It is very painful to
feel like your
spouse / partner doesn't
desire you Read More
Do you
desire for your
spouse to
feel loved enough that you are willing to expand your own ideas about how to express this love and really learn what your
spouse needs from you in order to
feel loved?
While this distance may give you a sense of security, you might also
feel lonely and still
desire emotional closeness with others (your
spouse, partner, friends).
It's common for the lower -
desire spouse to
feel that it's okay to make a unilateral decision about whether or not the couple connects sexually, thinking, Why in the world would my partner be interested in sex if we're not
feeling close?
This isn't to say that I don't nudge the higher -
desire spouse to
feel empathy for his or her partner.
It immediately helps the higher -
desire spouse feel that I just spoke their story, and it opens a chance to connect with the lower -
desire spouse.
Your
spouse looks relatively similar to when you first met, but you
feel no excitement or even a
desire to touch them when they are around.