This statement by Dr. Doherty sums it up, «I like to
think of marriage as coming with the conviction that nothing will break us up; that we'll fight through whatever obstacles get in our
way; that if the boat gets swamped, we'll bail it out; that we'll recalibrate our individual goals if they get out
of alignment; that we'll share leadership for maintaining and renewing our marriage; that we'll renovate our marriage if the current version gets
stale; that if we fight too much or too poorly, we'll get help to fight better; that if sex is no longer good, we'll find a
way to make it good again; that we'll accept each other's weaknesses that can't be fixed; and that we'll take care
of each other in our
old age.»