If you can't tolerate and fully accept the aspects of your partner that you don't find lovable —
such as drinking, smoking, eating habits, anger or withdrawal, workaholism, unreliability, messiness, lateness, porn addiction, sexual demands, sexual disinterest, hygiene, anger, rage, people - pleasing, resistance, selfishness, moodiness, emotional unavailability,
neediness, criticalness and so on — then this person is not the right partner for you.
For marriages with relatively minor issues,
such as disagreements, communication failures, hostility, depression, selfishness, jealousy,
neediness, and the like - are issues that can be resolved very effectively in counsel