This exact situation has happened to me my son's father is a narcissistic
abuser and hestabbing me in the back and used underhanded
tactics including lying in court to gain custody
of my son and I say my son because he told me when he got custody he called just to say who has your son now Lauren.
Abusers often employ a variety
of tactics in their quest to control their targets, including physical abuse (e.g., pushing, hitting, choking), sexual abuse (e.g., forced sexual activities), emotional abuse (e.g., name - calling, insults, public or private humiliation), economic abuse (e.g., controlling finances, preventing the partner from having a job), coercion and threats (e.g., threatening to harm or leave the partner), intimidation (e.g., destroying the partner's property, harming the partner's pet), social isolation (e.g., monitoring or limiting the partner's social contacts and outside activities), and denial (e.g., denying or minimizing the abuse, blaming the partner for the abuse)(see Hines, Brown, & Dunning, 2007; National Domestic Violence Hotline, 2015; Pence & Paymar, 1993; U.S. Department
of Justice, 2008, 2014).
It is a
tactic used by
abusers and their supporters to stop investigations
of domestic violence and child abuse complaints and instead give custody to the
abuser and little or no contact to the safe protective mother.