I know there's controversy about co-sleeping, but to me, it feels a lot more «natural»
then letting my baby cry it out.
Not exact matches
then she hired a sleep consultant, who advised her to
let her
baby cry for 5 minutes at a time as a means to helping him to learn to put himself back to sleep.
Your
baby may need some time to adjust to your new parenting style, so try
letting her
cry for two minutes on her own and
then gradually increase the time.
You and your
baby will benefit greatly if you can
let her
cry,
then calm herself down so she can look at her mobile or play with her other toys for a bit.
If
letting your
baby cry - it - out does not feel right
then don't do it!
I'm struggling right now with what to do - I was quite happy to
let my 4 month old suck himself to sleep and would happily
let him come into our bed, he always sleeps better there & I don't believe in «training»
babies to fit in with our schedules... However, from being a «good sleeper» he's now nearly 5 months and his sleep has deteriorated to a 2 or 3 hr stretch,
then he's up every 45mins / 1 hr or so throughout the night - not fully awake but
crying for a feed to get back to sleep.
The Ferber method is just one, where you go in to quietly and quickly comfort the
baby at progressively longer intervals (for example 1 minute, 3 minutes, 5 minutes,
then later on to 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes), which is different from just
letting a
baby «
cry themselves to sleep».
Then it's time to find someone else to calm your
baby or for you to
let the
baby cry it out.
Otherwise, put the
baby in a comfortable and safe place, such as a crib, and
then walk away and
let the child
cry while you calm down.
If you are the type of parent that
lets your newborn
baby «
cry it out»
then you are not handling your
baby properly.
meeting a
baby's need to be fed becuase it is hungry or comforting it when it is distressed is fine in my book... but when a two year old pitches a fit at nap or bed time and
crys till mommy or daddy come to check on them,
then settles down but refuses to fall asleep, followed by wailing as soon as the parent leaves the room... now that calls for some «
letting them
cry it out».
Then I found books and websites that warned against
letting baby «
cry it out,» in any form.
In this method, you are going to
let your
baby «
cry it out,» but only for a few minutes,
then you go check on the
baby.
Respond to a
baby's
cries promptly, check to see if changing or feeding is needed, and
then let the
baby learn to go to sleep if it is nap - time or bedtime.
Following this line of thought leads right to many well - meaning parents
letting their infants «
cry it out» under the instruction of well - meaning doctors and so - called
baby experts as well as hundreds of articles and books telling a parent that if they do not «teach» their children to have «healthy» sleep patterns
then their children never will, and it will because the parent (s) did not stick with the short term emotional consequences of
crying it out.
The first time you leave the room,
let baby cry for about three minutes,
then re-enter the room.
If your brother is pressuring you to
let your
baby cry to sleep, but you would never do that,
then don't complain to him about your
baby getting you up five times the night before.
If
letting your
baby cry it out (to a certain extent) works for you and you don't notice negative outcomes
then great for you!
If the mother
lets you hold the
baby and
then the
baby cries, give the
baby back.
Steer clear of the topic If your brother is pressuring you to
let your
baby cry to sleep, but you would never do that,
then don't complain to him about your
baby getting you up five times the night before.
It is okay to
let your
baby cry for a minute, in fact, sometimes they just need to be heard and
then they are content.
You feel wretched
letting your
baby cry on purpose, and
then you feel great waves of elation as you realize they have stopped
crying and have finally gone to sleep.
The basic idea of
letting your
baby cry it out sounds simple enough: instead of getting up to soothe your fussy
baby in the night, you
let the little one
cry a bit and
then fall asleep again without help.
Since
then, I've had people suggest I should
let my
babies cry it out, have stricter punishment for my children and many more unwanted «pearls of wisdom.»
If you give in and
let your
baby take control
then your
baby may gain the attitude that if he
cries enough, he will get what he wants.
Let me put it simply, if you have a
baby who is
crying for hours on end for days at a time,
then you need to check out Jen Lester's Survivor's Guide to Colic.
So rather than rushing in to comfort
baby immediately, we'd wait 5 minutes after our
baby began
crying,
then go in and comfort
baby and
let baby know Mom and Dad are there,
then leave.
why oh why do airlines
let you spend a significant 4 figure sum extra to be in «Business» class and
then allow
babies and toddlers in «Business» who spend most of the 13 hours in the air screaming and
crying?