I think natural birth is amazing.
Like many of you,
I thought natural birth and home birth were things that granola eating hippy - ish freaks did.
Thank you Dr. Amy as I found your blog while crying over what happened a day after and it simultaneously educated me and comforted me of my PTSD of that incident and to know I wasn't alone in
thinking natural birth was a sham and my pain was real.
Not exact matches
One might
think that the
natural alternative to a (unlikely) virgin
birth would be a (likely) normal
birth.
I
think part of this is coming because
natural & home
births are becoming more and more popular, which is terrifying to hospitals and (mostly male) doctors.
I definitely worry when I
think about how popular culture is making all my fellow women of the world view
natural, normal
birth as only for «masochists, women who don't shave their armpits and have children named Moon Flower»
We can blame popular media for showing «normal» women having medicated
births, but I
think that the media that shows strange (by my account) women having «
natural»
birth is also to blame.
Although I admire the Aspen Women's Center's honesty, I find it truly offensive that they imply that if a woman wants a doula,
natural birth, or has a
birth plan, she is not concerned with the welfare and health of her baby (so much more personal than «unborn child» don't you
think?)
My first
birth was totally non-scary right up until it went wrong; until then I
thought birth was fairly quick,
natural, something my body can handle.
I
thought birth was always a
natural & easy process - all of the women in my life had easy, quick, complication - free
births (including a vaginal breech
birth)- so I was unprepared for the pain and the stress and the complications involved with my own 1st
birth.
I
thought for sure I would need to «jump start» the
birth with
natural remedies to avoid having a hospital
birth or encountering future problems.
It was a very
natural birth, and I
think your recovery is very rapid when you have no drugs in your system.
They forgot about the oxytocin... My vaginal
birth not having messed things up (and the pitocin having even increased my
natural levels... shh don't tell anyone), I was able to chill out and send the occasional text message without the usual fight or flight response caused by texting while I get on the freeway (wait a minute, I
thought fight or flight was the response caused in all the other drivers when they see you texting).
Most moms do what «sbest for their kids.And yes, there are women out there who legitimately can not bf, so formula is a WONDERFUL choice for them.I exclusively bf both of mine, but
think it's okay to ff if you don't have enough milk.there are other situations where i
think it's selfish.As for drugs during pregnancy and
birth, I had to take 3 doses of medication while pregnant so that I could eat.my morning sickness was so bad I couldn't even keep water down.I made the choice to do that so I didn't starve my unborn child, but I only took what was neccessary to keep something down, and then had no other drugs and plan not to until my son is done bf.And as for the «
natural» baby, carcinogens are EVERYWHERE, even in your organic food.in this industrialized world you can not get away from them, and to attack other moms for their choices is a sad statement of your morality and on how your child's persoality is going to turn out.also, having multiple kids is definately more demanding than one.
Soon after those
thoughts popped in my head, our doula arrived (Josh called her at some point to let her know we were going to the hospital) and was helping me with positions while we waited to be called back, and my
thoughts of giving up on a
natural birth went away.
I would meditate on that subject, and go to sleep at night
thinking about it, building my foundation for this
natural birth that I so wanted.
Beyond
birth stories, we will be sharing our
thoughts on other
natural birth topics.
I do
think working with a midwife, but in a hospital that supported
natural child
birth and caring, respectful nurses made it more possible and likely that I had positive and minimally invasive
birth experiences.
Whether you believe in scheduled c - sections or you
think women should give
birth in the
natural wilderness of their backyards, providing women with factual, non-biased information so that they can feel empowered to make their own decisions should be the ultimate goal.
So if you consider that you do not have the mental and physical strength to cope with a
natural birth, it is best to
think twice before choosing this option.
When a woman chooses not to have a drug - free
birth experience, women who believe in the superiority of
natural birth tend to
think of her as less - than: she took the easy way out; she just doesn't get it; she probably doesn't really care about her health, or her baby's health, as much as I care about mine.
There is a certain type of person that
thinks why the
natural birth movement comes out with is a nicer story.
I learned about Bellefit 9 months after I had a
natural birth, I didn't
think it was going to help me at all, but I was wrong!
Thanks for sharing, the
thought of a
natural birth has always scared the hell out of me but the older I get the more the idea appeals.
I also had a
natural, drug - free, first - time
birth experience and I'm convinced that every woman can do it, however they need to be committed to put in the time to research, meditate, relax, do yoga, do exercises,
think mantras, and read, read, read.
I
think all of the preparation I did helped me immensely and I would say that for women who want a
natural birth too: educate yourself, become an expert on your
birth, be positive and surround yourself with caring people.
I truly do believe that all women are capable of having a
natural birth (barring any serious complications, which are far more rare than people
think).
I
think it's great that you were strong during your
birth, but your article (s) and the subsequent comments suggest that the only reason a woman wouldn't have a
natural birth is if she wimped out.
I
thought this post was quite mild and yet clearly hit a nerve with many
natural birth / home
birth advocates.
I am beyond confused as to what you
think is ignorance — believing that a woman's body that was designed to give
birth is going to do just that unless something stops it... or believing that a doctor that has probably never seen a
natural birth nor experienced pregnancy or
birth themselves (because most OB's that I've encountered have not experienced either situation) is capable of knowing what each individual woman is needing??
I had a
natural birth plan and
thought that it would be followed in hospital, but I was just told that a lot of things had to be done because it was» hospital policy» to do them, whether I liked them or not... My baby ended up in distress and I had an emergency C - section.
You skewed my words regarding «managing» my
birth... the whole point of the midwife is to alert the mother of the possibility of a problem, just like an OB so then a proper course of action can be taken... I was merely saying that they don't
think of
birth as a medical emergency from the beginning, requiring things that are unnecessary, like constant monitoring because it's easier than intermittent monitoring, or restricting maternal intake because the doctor could get puked on, or have fecal matter excreted during delivery is selfish (and yes, I know, the mother could aspirate, but the rate of that is low too... and I'm not saying they need to eat a steak dinner... but denying a drink of water, or a popsicle during a long labor is just ridiculous, as is rushing a
natural process for convenience sake.)
Earth Mama created a Free
Birth Plan to help all moms have better
births — whether you are going all -
natural or
thinking about medications to help you along the way.
While I believe giving
birth should be a
natural experience (because of the number of unnecessary inductions for convenience, Pitocin augmentation that led to early epidural that ended with a C - S for failure to progress) I would have to say that the
thought of an unassisted
birth at home is the scariest thing I have heard lately.
I don't
think there are many of us women who've experienced a
natural home
birth with this exact positioning and just wanted to give you a shout out.
i
think there should be a happy medium and truce made between
natural birth and medical assistance.
I chose a midwife because I wanted a
natural birth and I
thought all midwives believed in women, birthing and keeping it
natural.
«I
think there's more of a
natural birth subculture going on with white women — an interest in a low - intervention
birth in a familiar setting.»
It was created to help guide your
thinking as you assemble your
birth team, whether you prefer a
natural, non-medicated
birth or a medically assisted (epidural) delivery.
I too
think that the time and energy would be better spent educating woman on the benefits of
natural, vaginal
birth and the true risks of elective c - section rather than re-branding c - sections as «
natural».
I
think the strength you exhibited in the face of tragedy trumps the strength it takes to have a «
natural»
birth 10x over.
I remember
thinking: oh, my goodness, the women that have these
natural births, do you feel all that down there or is your body just so numb?
I do
think there is a gap between a woman aiming to have a completely
natural birth and seeing that as a
natural physiological process, and treating it like a problem already in progress and preventative measures.
I
thought that
natural birth meant pain and a lot of suffering.
If you are
thinking about water
birth, read this article to get all information you need about
natural birth in water.
When I learned more about how
natural birth process works and how women's body goes along with it with the help of its hormones, all I could
think «it makes so much sense, why didn't I know about this?
I
think a lot of people don't really understand
natural birth because it's so rare in our culture.
I have to admit that I felt pretty proud of myself for already implementing many of the simple and amazing ideas for
natural family living experiments, and although I would love to try almost everything on this list, when I
thought of what was actually a pressing matter for me, I realized that nothing is probably more important to me at this point than preparing to have a
natural birth in May.
*»
Natural Hospital
Birth» by Cynthia Gabriel (required for certification) * «The
Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better
Birth» by Henci Goer * «Gentle
Birth Choices» by Barbara Harper * «A Good
Birth, a Safe
Birth» by Diana Korte and Roberta Scaer * «
Birth Reborn» by Michel Odent, MD * «The
Birth Partner» by Penny Simkin * «Unassisted Childbirth» by Laura Shanley * «Birthing From Within» by Pam England * «Active
Birth» by Janet Balaskas * «Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn» by Simkin, Whaley and Keppler «New
Natural Pregnancy» by Janet Balaskas «Women Giving
Birth» by Limberg and Smulders «Special Delivery» by Rahima Baldwin «Waterbirth: A Midwife's Perspective» by Susan Napierala * «Back Labor No More» by Janie King «The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth» by Sheila Kitzinger «Mothering the Mother» by Marshall and Phyllis Klaus «Nurturing Touch at
Birth: A Labor Support Handbook» by Paulina Perez «The
Birth Book» by Martha and William Sears * «The Scientification of Love» by Michel Odent, MD * «The Farmer and the Obstetrician» by Michel Odent, MD
I realize they're trying to push a «
natural»
birth but sometimes interventions are necessary and I don't
think mothers should ever feel guilty for getting their child out safe and healthy.