She stated in the letter that she didn't
think nursing in public was appropriate, and it wasn't necessary to react the ways she did — by using vulgar language and squirting her with breast milk.
Here's why
we think nursing in public should be the new norm:
Not exact matches
A
nursing mother who wants to be invisible can
think in advance of some private retreats
in public places.
Of course, most mothers who are comfortable
nursing in public would never
think that, much less hand it out as advice!
Also if I were to
think about it, I want to be an example for moms who might be a bit hesitant to
nurse in public, I want it too seem normal and that lots of women do it.
I do
think that if it becomes more common and more accepted for women to
nurse in public, then perhaps more women will feel comfortable doing so.
My kids would never
nurse under a cover, and I don't necessarily
think you HAVE to use one to breastfeed
in public.
I don't
think that women should have to hole themselves up
in a bathroom stall — how gross, especially a
public bathroom — or some other dungeon to feed her
nursing child.
I
think it's important that the mom and baby are comfortable while
nursing in public, discreet or not.
SUNNY GAULT: Yeah, I mean, I
think that's, you know, the whole point with the whole baby - friendly initiative is, you know, when moms come
in to a hospital, you really don't know their background, you don't know, you know, did their mom breastfeed, you know, have they, you know, have they ever seen someone
nursing in public, like you don't know where they start off.
While most mothers
think that
nursing a baby
in public is their right (and rightly so), their opponents are equally adamant about opposing it all costs.
Robin Kaplan: Here's a comment from one of our Facebook friends, this is from Shelley, and what she wrote was, «I posted this on the Leaky Boob as well, but with all the negative stories we've been hearing lately about
nursing in public, I
thought I'd share the wonderful breastfeeding encouragement I had a couple of weekends ago, from my 85 - year - old great uncle.
Robin Kaplan: And I
think that - and I want to ask Daisy as well about her experience - but the thing that I want to point out is; I
think that people, when they hear about
nursing in public harassment, I don't
think they realize the repercussions on the mom who is hearing this and the devastation and the way that it makes her feel.
I
think women are becoming more comfortable
in telling others that they are still
nursing older babies so hopefully there will be a shift
in attitudes but I have recently «lost» a few facebook followers after posting a status regarding full - term breastfeeding (I
think they were most likely from a giveaway I did ages ago and not on the same page re: bf etc) Apart from that, I love telling Mums on the ward (I'm a bf peer supporter) I'm still feeding as it opens their mind to that possibility and I
think I look pretty normal so it mostly doesn't freak them out My son is far too busy to
nurse out and about and prefers juice so we've not
nursed in public (apart from support group) since he was 18 mths and that was as I had a blocked duct!
I don't do it
in public anymore, and almost everyone I know
think he is completely weaned, and that makes our short and seldom times
nursing that much more special!!
Miffed by a societal norm that perpetuates the idea that women who
nurse their babies should do so
in hiding, I've
thought of a few things you actually don't have to do when breastfeeding
in public.
You know, I
nursed my kids, and I
think nursing is a good thing
in general and that people should be free to do it
in public, etc. but I have to say that I sincerely hated, as a breastfeeding mother, when people like you would do nutty stuff like that.
I'm a real proponent of
nursing in public (I
think the more people see women
nursing their babies out
in public the more normal it will become and the less stressful it will be for women who need to feed their babies while they're outside) but I try to do it as discreetly as possible.
I'm not sure why I've gotten such a negative response this time, but I
thought I've done well, especially having a toddler running circles around me while
nursing at home and
in public.
If you
thought getting glares while discreetly breastfeeding your newborn under a
nursing cover, huddled
in a tiny crowded space, was uncomfortable, try
nursing an active two - year - old on a
public park bench; or better yet, imagine the judgment you'd get if you announced you were going to
nurse your adopted African baby for the first time... at age three.
It takes guts... to
nurse in a room full of glares, to
nurse at a
public park or restaurant, to
nurse in the middle of a children's museum where people actually
think you're part of an R - rated exhibit.
While I don't feel that
nursing a baby whenever and wherever there is a need is at all inappropriate, I
think that
nursing a toddler
in public is.
If you are out
in public and your baby cries or someone else's baby cries or you see a baby or you
think about
nursing or you just waited too long to get back to your baby and
nurse or maybe you just sneezed the wrong way, you're going to leak all over your shirt.
Plus, whether you
nurse in front of your own kids or not shapes what they
think about seeing women breastfeed
in public, so I'd say the problems start at home on this one.
A lot say things like «oh you are a pervert» «how can you enjoy something that hurts» «doesn't he bite» «after 6 months your milk isn't good for him anymore» «you look foolish
nursing in public, you should take that to the family restroom or back out to your car» «what do you
think that is going to do to him socially» I've heard all these things.
I
nursed her anyway
in many
public places — I figured the locals would
think I was a crazy tourist, and the tourists would
think I was a crazy local!
I
think we should do whatever it takes to get us out there,
nursing in public.
And I
think it's legitimate to protest against a store that has a discriminatory policy (although you may recall I was AGAINST a
public protest at the mall where a woman was told to
nurse in the bathroom).
Ita, I don't
think I've ever met a woman who
nurses anywhere,
in public or at home because she «feels like it».
I finished the ad feeling uneasy and only after
thinking about it for a bit did I realize what it was... I'm a breastfeeding mother that feels consistent judgment regarding my choice to feed
in public, not necessarily wanting to cover my child while feeding, pumping at work for my «older child» and she's less than 1 yr old, organizing my life / job / childcare to prioritize our
nursing relationship... I feel judgment and yet I'm making an effort to do the best for my baby.
On the one hand, you might
think that these
nursing pads are the same one; however, high — quality pads can help you get out of ashamed while you are staying
in the
public areas.
If you
thought getting glares while discretely breastfeeding your newborn under a
nursing cover huddled
in a tiny crowded space was uncomfortable, try
nursing an active two - year - old on a
public park bench, or better yet, imagine the judgment you'd get if you announced you were going to
nurse your adopted African baby for the first time... at three.
There are just too many moms being shamed for
nursing in public and I
think I may have a solution.
I
think people have a vision of
nursing in public of women removing their entire shirt — but it's not an exhibitionist thing and once people realize that, they'll accept it and it won't be an issue anymore.
Fifty - seven percent of Americans
think women shouldn't
nurse in public.
I admit that I have some hesitations about
nursing an older child
in public, and I've been
thinking a lot about why that is.
I
think it's the backward
thinking of people still brainwashed that formula is better than breast milk that makes
nursing in public something people consider taboo.
Asked yesterday what his father will
think of his current problem, Stein told The Post, «With all the great work I did
in public service and with
nursing homes, I'm sure he's proud of me.
I am 10 weeks postpartum now, so haven't done warm weather with the extra belly /
nursing access issue, but I don't
think I'll be wearing just a
nursing tank
in public even though I don't mind it being tight.
What I take from Paul
Nurse's comments is that, apparently, the climate scientists
thought they could do «science» AND be heavily involved
in radical political agendas that directly benefited their enterprise, and while doing so, NOT expect to get some push back by the tax paying
public (who, after all, are paying their salaries while also being the targets of the CAGW activists).