I was STILL nursing on demand, he had yet to sleep at night in his crib or out of our bed, and I wouldn't even
think of spanking him.
It may help to
think of spanking as a way to get the child's immediate attention and to begin by substituting another behavior, such as clapping, for spanking to get the child's attention before doing the positive discipline exercise.
Whatever
you think of spanking, whether you were spanked as a child or whether you spank your own kids, whenever you are deciding which discipline method to employ, it's important to make sure it is the most effective one to implement.
But to be honest,
the thought of spanking strikes feelings of dread.
Not exact matches
But it is comforting to realize that the techniques
of child - raising once
thought to be crucial — breast or bottle feeding, time
of weaning or toilet training,
spanking or not
spanking — are insufficient criteria for explaining behavioral and emotional reactions
of children.
Lucky me got a brand
spanking new waffle maker for Christmas from one
of my relatives and since I've never done a waffle recipe on the blog before, I
thought it was a great opportunity to do a little experimenting.
If Wenger doesn't bring Zidane and Pele back from retirement in the next 4 hours MINIMUM and bring out the form they were in in the peak
of their careers I
think he should be given a good
spanking!
I feel like the Bucs are the only team they could beat in the 1st round (I legit
think they'd lose to everyone else except maybe the Wizards) but maybe I'm underestimating Brad Stevens and his motley bunch
of < 25ers They'll get
spanked in the semis I expect
After getting
spanked 5 - 1 here last year you'd
think they would be rearing to go with a point to prove but instead this group
of cowards turn up and put in the worse arsenal performance in a decade, if we were playing the liverpool
of last year it would have been 7 - 1 this time.
I'm not
thinking of Top 4 because we have already been
spanked by City and Liverpool.
I
think all this criticism
of spanking is not helpful.
I
think, however, that if we are raising our children with empathy from the very beginning, starting with birth, we are less likely to get to the point
of no return and have to resort to
spanking.
I
think that children who are
spanked are more likely to grow up into adults that
spank because
of the argument, «I got
spanked and I turned out OK.»
I read a lot today about the argument (in favor
of spanking) that kids today are out
of control and disrespectful and I
think the vast majority
of that comes down to how they were raised in the early years.
IF a person
thinks they must
spank, I wish it'd be a LAST option instead
of the first they turn to.
Along the way, my way
of thinking changed, and I realized that what
spanking teaches most is fear.
I
think much
of the criticism
of spanking rightly comes from those who grew up in homes were it was misused and they were abused.
I don't
think a young child is able to distinguish that «
spanking» is trying to teach him or her a lesson, even if it's done with love on the part
of the parent.
Most
of all, I
think it's important for parents to be able to share their struggles and shortcomings with others without fear
of judgment if we are to successfully overcome our compulsion to
spank or to discipline punitively.
Other mothers simply feel that
spanking isn't effective: «I don't plan on using
spanking — I
think it teaches children to «behave» out
of fear, not because they've learned right from wrong.»
And I
think the needs
of brand -
spanking - newborns are quite different from those
of even slightly older infants, and I should have differentiated that more clearly.
This is scary, because an article in the Boston Globe said that 70 percent
of Americans
think that
spanking is sometimes necessary - and 90 percent
of parents
of toddlers
spank them.
Thinking that
spanking leads to abuse, Gershoff investigated the effectiveness
of spanking by conducting a meta - analysis....
I
think there's a difference between
spanking and «harsh»
spankings that induce fear in a child... The idea
of spanking a child is that by doing it they won't repeat bad behavior... if a parent has gotten to a point where they find themselves
spanking more often than not for the SAME action then it's time to find something else.
* I also send my kids to public school, let them watch TV, vaccinate them (though I do
think there are too many
of those), reprimand them for misbehaviour and use timeouts (no
spanking though), and other such heretical things.
At least I know my first
thought when hearing the word is
of a child being scolded or
spanked (the way my generation was «disciplined.»)
This is scary, because I just recently read an article in the Boston Globe that said that 70 percent
of Americans
think that
spanking is sometimes necessary — and 90 percent
of parents
of toddlers
spank them.
The Globe article quoted Dr. Murray Straus, a sociologist at the University
of New Hampshire who studies the effects
of corporal punishment on kids, as saying that people
think that
spanking will work when nothing else does.
For instance, you may
think that
spanking is an effective form
of discipline, but if you have to use it each day to correct the same problem or behavior, then it should be obvious that it isn't.
And in that moment, I wondered, had I been a parent who believed in
spanking as an act
of discipline, would I have given my son a quick swat on the back side and
thought it a teaching moment?
If they are, then they are in the company
of roughly 90 %
of my parents» generation, 1 including 70 %
of family doctors and 60 %
of pediatricians, who
thought spanking acceptable in some circumstances.2 The proportion
of parents who
spank toddlers now is still high but closer to 50 %.3 Many parents will say that a good smack taught them right and wrong and that there is a role for it in teaching good behaviour.
I
think to one
of the commentator's point his
spanking was not performed in anger, it was deliberate and very short.
It made me laugh to
think of you trying to
spank your kids!
Hopefully people will at least
think twice about hitting their children, and maybe some
of the people we come in contact with will decide not to
spank, and it will be a chain reaction.
I
think you will have much more luck persuading people not to
spank if you stick with the more effective arguments and throw this one out
of your repetoire.
Thanks for your comment, Brett, but I don't
think it escapes notice that you offer nothing to support your view that
spanking promotes prosocial behavior while other nonphysical forms
of punishment lead to anti-social behavior.
Alot
of people are saying
spanking a child makes them
think violence is ok when your mad but that's not true.
I genuinely would like to know why you stopped
spanking if you
thought it was such an effective method
of teaching a lesson.
I
think yelling /
spanking are done out
of frustration.
The majority
of the participants in the study, 74.6 percent,
thought less favorably
of spanking after reading the summary.
While
thoughts, beliefs, and feelings that originate in the mind can trigger stress responses in the body that deactivate the body's natural self - healing processes, predisposing the body to illness, the presence
of illness does not mean that you've been a bad patient with bad
thoughts and you deserve a cosmic
spanking.
Sure, you don't necessarily want to throw it out there on the first date that you want to be tied up and
spanked, dangled from the ceiling or locked in a cage, but when your sexual preference is more
of an identity that a preference, I
think there's a certain obligation to reveal that in the early stages to your partner.
We enjoy playing with toys, light bondage, blindfolds,
spankings, handcuffs, massages, oils and what every our dirty little minds can
think of, oh yeah and we do have lots
of batteries LOL...
Now, instead
of looking for the minutest
of signs that she'd be into bondage, you can do a site search on a BDSM site for women who like bondage, or any other kink you can
think of including specific fetishes, S&M,
spanking, domination, etc..
The saying in English (
spank me) may also be a criticism on our contemporary times where we usually follow global and standardized models / ideas, sometimes without really knowing or
thinking about what they mean, what can be also seen, let's say, in the episode
of the «telephone teenager girl».
They have lots
of sex, he
spanks and whips her, and despite his insistence that he is not a candy and flowers kind
of guy, Ana
thinks that this arrangement has the potential to blossom into something greater.
Often, the review will say something like, «I don't normally read erotica because
of all the sex, but I
thought I'd give
Spank Happy Oiled Gladiators a try, and was reminded
of why these books suck a bag
of d #cks.
Question: My dog i
thought peed because she was left alone thats the only time she will pee in the house well my roomate had allowed a stranger to sleep in her bed and the next dsy meimei peed on the side he slept on, now she continues to do so could this be a anxiety because shes house trained and is 11 years old i could never see my self
spanking or yelling... so how can i take care
of this issue without harsh punishment she is an inside dog never csged, or tied out and i cant bare to see her left outside all day alon... help im pulling hair here...
It's something I couldn't help but to
think during my time virtually
spanking a group
of females and seeing their almost bare breasts bounce around the screen on Criminal Girls 2: Party Favors.
There are ten classes to choose from, several
of which I
thought were brand
spanking new to me (that doesn't happen often).