Now, I will not advocate that parents should simply accept depression and greater stress, but I don't
think sleep training really helps matters either.
Well,
I think sleep training with a 13 - month - old is completely different from what we did when BabyC was an infant.
I think the sleep training rigidity can go both ways — by that I mean, there are an awful lot of die hard «no cry it out» mamas who probably think I'm an AWFUL person for letting my baby cry a little.
I think I sleep trained them that way.
I thought sleep training would be a magic wand — that was a big eye - opener!
Not exact matches
While some will see this sleepwear as just pricy pajamas, Under Armour views it as a coaching tool to encourage athletes to
think less about
training and more about passive actions like
sleep.
We arrived in Stockholm pretty late after a long
train ride from Oslo (I
think I
slept most of the way!
Their approach moves beyond old school ideas like «
sleep training» — it's grounded in research and shaped by new
thinking.
You may
think your methods of
training your baby to
sleep without crying via holding, rocking, or bouncing is working but in all actuality that baby has just
trained you, by crying.
And I don't like that when people hear «
sleep training» they tend to only
think of one method.
I'm not saying that there aren't parents who have
sleep trained and had «results» of
sleeping... but I
think that's coincidence all the way.
I don't
think either of us relized how lopsided things had gotten since a lot of it felt natural (i.e I did all of the feedings since I was nursing, which meant I was the one up at night which meant I did the
sleep «
training» which meant that I desparately read all the baby books which meant I knew more when she got sick... you get the picture).
Come to
think of it — maybe my baby IS brain damaged from the
sleep training!
Many parents
think they're applying his
sleep -
training method appropriately, but in reality, they are not.
After some success with my own three toddlers, I
thought I'd share these ten simple rules for toddler
sleep training in case they help you.
When people
think of
sleep training, they typically assume it involves letting their baby cry for some period of time.
And my heart broke at the
thought of parents who'd been misled and intimidated by self - proclaimed parenting «experts» into
sleep -
training their precious babies instead of responding to their cries.
It also helped her to not do many type of
sleep training as well because she realize that he tanked up so much overnight; that he really actually did need in the middle of the night — which I
think was equally important aspect for her to see if that whole process as well.
I never
thought I would
sleep train my babies.
With as much reading as I have done about
sleep training, you would
think that I would be better at it.
Just like the first weeks and months of motherhood when you're postpartum and
sleep deprived, our potty
training - stressed selves really just need to know that what we're
thinking and feeling is normal.
I
thought it would be simpler to go through the tough parts of parenting, like
sleep training and potty
training, with two kids at the same time, instead of struggling with each child individually.
I
think it's time to start some method of
sleep training, but I was at a loss as to what to do since I can't do CIO.
To use these studies as support for the argument FOR
sleep training or to scare you into
thinking your baby who is not
sleeping as much as the chart states is misleading to parents.
For example, the only reason
sleep -
training «works» is because a baby doesn't
think anyone will come get baby.
Herman and Ryan recommended
training twins at different times and in separate rooms, but we chose not to since we
thought they would ultimately
sleep better if
trained concurrently.
Before Bean was born I never put a lot of
thought into
sleep training, or letting a child cry himself to
sleep, or «cry it out,» or co-sleeping, or nursing to
sleep, or any of it.
What if you don't
think CIO and no tears methods are the right
sleep training techniques for your baby?
When Heather (from momstown) suggested maybe a post on my
sleep training tips, I laughed and
thought I absolutely had no business giving advice on this.
When I first read about
sleep training (when baby was about five months old), I was horrified at the
thought, but at first I could only find supportive descriptions of it, or rather of different methods of controlled crying, mostly involving some presence in the room (for example, sitting next to the cot, then a couple of days later sitting next to the door, sitting at the other side of the open door, & c.).
In general, I am philosophically opposed to crying based
sleep training methods and I do
think there are better methods, although I understand the temptation.
Hi Jenna, I wouldn't
think of this as
sleep training or cry it out.
However, I truly
think that
sleep training our kids in the same room was the best thing we could have done for them and for us!
I
think CIO is used interchangeably in the U.S. with
sleep training.
I also remember my first twin case and how intimidated I was at the
thought of TWO babies going through the
sleep training process.
Although I am not concerned about any long - term effects of
sleep training, I
thought there were some major limitations to the study.
I often hear the hypothesis that babies that are
sleep trained do not cry because they
think mom will no longer respond.
We want to start
sleep training tomorrow because we feel that he is ready for it, but I wanted to hear your
thoughts on whether or not babyC was swaddled on that first night your family decided to begin CIO.
I
think most of us who are old enough to have babies are old enough to understand that supporting
sleep training for an older baby does not equal a message to start as early as possible, and Ferber and others actually make it quite clear that you CAN NOT
train a baby to eat on a spaced - out schedule or
sleep -
train in the early weeks and months, simply because their tummies are too small and they need to eat frequently.
I
think we might have avoided
sleep training later.
There are many
sleep training strategies, so decide what you
think might work best for you and give it a fair shot.
In all honesty, I could a series on cry - it - out infant
sleep training itself, but I
think I'll stop here.
So we have tons of parents buying books telling them how to
sleep train their children, stressing over every minute of
sleep, and generally running around anxious as can be if their child isn't doing what they
think they ought to be, worried that this means something horrid will happen to said child.
There are various schools of
thought on
sleep training.
«It's your family and your child, and I
think there's a misconception that pediatricians will force
sleep training on your family, when that's not the case,» Gold says.
Side note: some might argue that their decision to
sleep train was not made out of fear at all, but rather it was a logical,
thought - out decision they made to achieve a desired result — an easier baby who
sleeps through the night independently, and better - rested parents.
I welcome discussion on this topic, but as always, please remember to direct your
thoughts towards the practice of
sleep training, NOT TOWARDS PARENTS WHO PRACTICE IT.
«I don't
think I've ever loved and loathed anything as much as I do
sleep training.
If you're
thinking about starting
sleep training your little one, but you've got to take a trip in a few weeks, my suggestion is to put off the
training until you get back.
I
think the real sad thing is the reason why
sleep training was needed.