Thanks for sharing,
the thought of a natural birth has always scared the hell out of me but the older I get the more the idea appeals.
Not exact matches
I
think part
of this is coming because
natural & home
births are becoming more and more popular, which is terrifying to hospitals and (mostly male) doctors.
Like many
of you, I
thought natural birth and home
birth were things that granola eating hippy - ish freaks did.
I definitely worry when I
think about how popular culture is making all my fellow women
of the world view
natural, normal
birth as only for «masochists, women who don't shave their armpits and have children named Moon Flower»
Although I admire the Aspen Women's Center's honesty, I find it truly offensive that they imply that if a woman wants a doula,
natural birth, or has a
birth plan, she is not concerned with the welfare and health
of her baby (so much more personal than «unborn child» don't you
think?)
I
thought birth was always a
natural & easy process - all
of the women in my life had easy, quick, complication - free
births (including a vaginal breech
birth)- so I was unprepared for the pain and the stress and the complications involved with my own 1st
birth.
Most moms do what «sbest for their kids.And yes, there are women out there who legitimately can not bf, so formula is a WONDERFUL choice for them.I exclusively bf both
of mine, but
think it's okay to ff if you don't have enough milk.there are other situations where i
think it's selfish.As for drugs during pregnancy and
birth, I had to take 3 doses
of medication while pregnant so that I could eat.my morning sickness was so bad I couldn't even keep water down.I made the choice to do that so I didn't starve my unborn child, but I only took what was neccessary to keep something down, and then had no other drugs and plan not to until my son is done bf.And as for the «
natural» baby, carcinogens are EVERYWHERE, even in your organic food.in this industrialized world you can not get away from them, and to attack other moms for their choices is a sad statement
of your morality and on how your child's persoality is going to turn out.also, having multiple kids is definately more demanding than one.
Soon after those
thoughts popped in my head, our doula arrived (Josh called her at some point to let her know we were going to the hospital) and was helping me with positions while we waited to be called back, and my
thoughts of giving up on a
natural birth went away.
Whether you believe in scheduled c - sections or you
think women should give
birth in the
natural wilderness
of their backyards, providing women with factual, non-biased information so that they can feel empowered to make their own decisions should be the ultimate goal.
When a woman chooses not to have a drug - free
birth experience, women who believe in the superiority
of natural birth tend to
think of her as less - than: she took the easy way out; she just doesn't get it; she probably doesn't really care about her health, or her baby's health, as much as I care about mine.
There is a certain type
of person that
thinks why the
natural birth movement comes out with is a nicer story.
I
think all
of the preparation I did helped me immensely and I would say that for women who want a
natural birth too: educate yourself, become an expert on your
birth, be positive and surround yourself with caring people.
I truly do believe that all women are capable
of having a
natural birth (barring any serious complications, which are far more rare than people
think).
I am beyond confused as to what you
think is ignorance — believing that a woman's body that was designed to give
birth is going to do just that unless something stops it... or believing that a doctor that has probably never seen a
natural birth nor experienced pregnancy or
birth themselves (because most OB's that I've encountered have not experienced either situation) is capable
of knowing what each individual woman is needing??
I had a
natural birth plan and
thought that it would be followed in hospital, but I was just told that a lot
of things had to be done because it was» hospital policy» to do them, whether I liked them or not... My baby ended up in distress and I had an emergency C - section.
You skewed my words regarding «managing» my
birth... the whole point
of the midwife is to alert the mother
of the possibility
of a problem, just like an OB so then a proper course
of action can be taken... I was merely saying that they don't
think of birth as a medical emergency from the beginning, requiring things that are unnecessary, like constant monitoring because it's easier than intermittent monitoring, or restricting maternal intake because the doctor could get puked on, or have fecal matter excreted during delivery is selfish (and yes, I know, the mother could aspirate, but the rate
of that is low too... and I'm not saying they need to eat a steak dinner... but denying a drink
of water, or a popsicle during a long labor is just ridiculous, as is rushing a
natural process for convenience sake.)
While I believe giving
birth should be a
natural experience (because
of the number
of unnecessary inductions for convenience, Pitocin augmentation that led to early epidural that ended with a C - S for failure to progress) I would have to say that the
thought of an unassisted
birth at home is the scariest thing I have heard lately.
I don't
think there are many
of us women who've experienced a
natural home
birth with this exact positioning and just wanted to give you a shout out.
«I
think there's more
of a
natural birth subculture going on with white women — an interest in a low - intervention
birth in a familiar setting.»
I too
think that the time and energy would be better spent educating woman on the benefits
of natural, vaginal
birth and the true risks
of elective c - section rather than re-branding c - sections as «
natural».
I
think the strength you exhibited in the face
of tragedy trumps the strength it takes to have a «
natural»
birth 10x over.
I
thought that
natural birth meant pain and a lot
of suffering.
When I learned more about how
natural birth process works and how women's body goes along with it with the help
of its hormones, all I could
think «it makes so much sense, why didn't I know about this?
I
think a lot
of people don't really understand
natural birth because it's so rare in our culture.
I have to admit that I felt pretty proud
of myself for already implementing many
of the simple and amazing ideas for
natural family living experiments, and although I would love to try almost everything on this list, when I
thought of what was actually a pressing matter for me, I realized that nothing is probably more important to me at this point than preparing to have a
natural birth in May.
*»
Natural Hospital
Birth» by Cynthia Gabriel (required for certification) * «The
Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better
Birth» by Henci Goer * «Gentle
Birth Choices» by Barbara Harper * «A Good
Birth, a Safe
Birth» by Diana Korte and Roberta Scaer * «
Birth Reborn» by Michel Odent, MD * «The
Birth Partner» by Penny Simkin * «Unassisted Childbirth» by Laura Shanley * «Birthing From Within» by Pam England * «Active
Birth» by Janet Balaskas * «Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn» by Simkin, Whaley and Keppler «New
Natural Pregnancy» by Janet Balaskas «Women Giving
Birth» by Limberg and Smulders «Special Delivery» by Rahima Baldwin «Waterbirth: A Midwife's Perspective» by Susan Napierala * «Back Labor No More» by Janie King «The Complete Book
of Pregnancy and Childbirth» by Sheila Kitzinger «Mothering the Mother» by Marshall and Phyllis Klaus «Nurturing Touch at
Birth: A Labor Support Handbook» by Paulina Perez «The
Birth Book» by Martha and William Sears * «The Scientification
of Love» by Michel Odent, MD * «The Farmer and the Obstetrician» by Michel Odent, MD
Commonly called a Blessingway, it is a gathering
of women who support each other, not just during
birth but also through the
natural transitions
of life, who believe in a woman's innate strength as a mom, and keeps her in their
thoughts and prayers.
Definitely I
think that the emotional stress was there, I have a 4 at the
birth of my second baby because I was more afraid
of breastfeeding than I was the
natural child
birth that I had planned.
The picture a lot
of expecting moms have when they
think about
natural birth is a mother having a baby in a bathtub at home.
«I
think in general, what's available to people in hospitals has become pretty far removed from a
natural child
birth,» said Lorrie Kaplan, executive director
of the American College
of Nurse - Midwives.
I was also quite glad that I had informed my doctor
of my
birth plans and even though they were a conservative practice, I did
think they tried their best to accommodate me and give me a
natural delivery.
It is
natural to feel fear when
thinking of giving
birth naturally, especially if you live in western culture.
This happened to me with my CNM - led hospital
birth — I
thought that pitocin was evil and nearly always unnecessary, and so viewed the CNM who ordered it as standing in the way
of me getting my
natural birth.
For my first
birth I intended to go
natural but it didn't work out that way and I
think much
of it was my own fear and inexperience.
I
think that
natural birth leads to less interventions, and less interventions leads to a higher chance
of a low key vaginal
birth and a smoother post partum recovery and possibly an easier start with breastfeeding.
I
think it is really awesome that she is is bringing attention to the power and joy
of a
natural birth.
At the time all I was worried about was his survival, but as he grew and we knew he would be coming home with us someday, I started to
think about how to let go
of my
birth plans but keep the intention — to be a
natural parent, even to a preemie.
As I prepare to assist at the
births of several
of my doula clients, I
thought it was fitting to write a post about tips and strategies for a
natural labor.
Thank you Dr. Amy as I found your blog while crying over what happened a day after and it simultaneously educated me and comforted me
of my PTSD
of that incident and to know I wasn't alone in
thinking natural birth was a sham and my pain was real.
As I prepare to assist at the
births of several
of my doula clients, I
thought it was fitting to write a post about tips and strategies for a
natural labor.
So that's one case that was unavoidable just
thought I would put that out there as they are not always avoidable and some
of us don't get a chance to have a beautiful
natural birth
When I learned more about how
natural birth process works and how women's body goes along with it with the help
of its hormones, all I could
think «it makes so much sense, why didn't I know about this?
I don't forget that somebody said, «Oh, I don't
think you'll even be allowed to try for a
natural birth,» insinuating that because
of my size I'd be an automatic C - Section.
I
think it hits the nail on the head with some
of the questions so many women ask about the point
of natural birth.
Overall though, I
think this is a great post to get some
of the information out there to the general public about
natural birth, something I
think American women are sold short on.
If you make /
think positive statements like «I'm not afraid, I know my body was designed for this,» then you will go into labor with the confidence to accomplish your goal
of a
natural birth.