If you haven't already considered this,
there are therapists who specialize in helping couples during a troubled time.
I'm not sure your experience
of being a therapist is that relevant really because by definition you are seeing people who are seeking help.
And
what's the therapist's role in helping them move beyond the traditional boundaries of intimate relationships?
After 9 years in the mental health industry, I realized that I didn't
like being a therapist anymore, so I went to law school.
A massage
therapist is a therapist who treats body pains, aches and knots by using his / her knowledge of soft tissues muscles of the body.
Not
only are our therapists licensed and trained to be specialists in relationships, but I only hire folks who have enough life experience to really back up their training.
Here's another big difference: There
are no therapists here - only highly trained and certified coaches who are real wives with real lives.
Find out exactly who to ask for at the hospital should you feel depressed after your C - section (there likely will
be therapists on staff).
I was an accountant for about 15 years, and first became interested in
being a therapist after seeking counseling myself just prior to divorcing my first husband.
Not only
are our therapists licensed and experienced and trained in couple's counseling and relationship issues, but we've had a lot of life experience.
The single most important factor contributing to the success of
counseling is the therapist - client relationship; you should leave the first session feeling validated and understood.
While we may not
all be therapists, we can all practice empathy when interacting with our friends, loved ones, and even strangers.
There
are therapists out there who are ineffective, or perhaps just not a good fit for your needs.
In addition, there
is a therapist manual that goes along with this with an eight session outline that is evidence - based and very effective.
There
is the therapist mediator, the lawyer mediator, the transformative mediator, the collaborative coach and who knows what else under the sun.
So the most important
tool is the therapist's use of self in guiding the process of change — and understanding how to use that tool is the biggest obstacle for beginning therapists.
In addition to
being a therapist with a relational, systems approach, I am a trained mediator and believe in win / win scenarios for my clients.
While some of these professionals focus on dealing with individual patients, there
are therapists who focus mainly on couples as clients exclusively.
This book does a great job
of being therapist and consultant — from someone who's been there and done that — to those of us who have asked ourselves this very question.
The most rewarding thing to me
about being a therapist is working with couples who present with some form of trauma in their relationship.
Also — you can
not be therapist, teacher and doctor - you are parents and you should remember to be just that.
However,
there are some therapists who unintentionally use the therapy process and the people they work with to soothe their own psychological wounds.