Plus, nine weird things no one
told you about breastfeeding.
Actually, there are lots of things I'm glad no one
told me about breastfeeding in public.
I have been helping women breastfeed their babies for six years, and have been nursing my own children for over eight years, but I am still floored when I hear some of the things women are
told about breastfeeding — from their doctors, midwives, friends, grandmothers, Dr. Google, and even other lactation consultants.
I have asked «is there anything I can
tell you about breastfeeding, or any questions I can answer, that might make you lean in favour of breastfeeding?»
I felt like I had to defend myself to everyone who knew he had to go back in the hospital and
tell them about the breastfeeding experience.
But here are 15 things they don't
tell you about breastfeeding...
Although I never questioned if I was going to breastfeed, here are nine things people didn't
tell me about breastfeeding I wish I had known:
Not exact matches
Don't worry, hubby will
tell MIL to MYOB if she says anything
about us
breastfeeding exclusively for the first 6 months at least (she once tried to put egg in our oldest daughter's mouth when she was only 3 months old!
So I just don't get the «too much pressure to
breastfeed» when all around me are images of bottles, ads for formula
telling me a happy feeding makes a happy mom, bottlefeeding moms, moms and doctors and nurses
telling new moms that formula is «just as good» and «not to feel guilty», women getting «the look» for nursing in public, or feeling weird
about doing it (I sure did)-- to me, any pressure out there is NOT to
breastfeed, or do it as little as possible (not if it's not immediately easy or you don't love every minute, not past 6 mos, not in public, not around male relatives and friends, not around children, not if you ever want to go out alone sometime...)
I didn't even know why I felt so bad
about considering giving up, because everyone, even medical experts, was
telling me my baby would be fine if I didn't
breastfeed, and I personally had nothing against formula at all (again, I fully expected to wean to it eventually, probably around the six month mark).
You and I have talked before
about how frustrated I am with how my
breastfeeding experience turned out, but the information you've added here
about myths they
tell you in the hospital makes it even worse.
I
told her
about another friend who gave up
breastfeeding her 1st child at 3 weeks, due to bad medical advice,
about an abcess.
I want to
tell you a bit
about what they both said and then try to create a more objective view of the economic pros and cons of
breastfeeding.
This was so interesting... as a nurse, I have found no matter what I
tell moms
about sagging breasts and
breastfeeding... they believe, friends and other women's experiences instead.
Education during pregnancy rarely has anything serious to do with
breastfeeding, and since
breastfeeding is perceived by most pre-parenthood women to be a natural, instinctive thing instead of a learned behavior (on both mom & baby's part) if it doesn't go absolutely perfectly from the first moments they may feel something is wrong with THEM and clam up
about it while quietly giving the baby the hospital - offered bottle along with the bag of formula samples they give out «just in case» even if you explicitly
tell them you're
breastfeeding (which was my experience with my firstborn in 2004 and one of the many highly informed reasons I chose to birth my next two at home).
, a mama who reached out to
tell us
about how the Whole30 benefited her
breastfeeding baby.
If you have already had breast surgery and wish to
breastfeed, it is important to
tell your current doctor
about the surgery.
Pregnant women are often not
told about the possible consequences of birth interventions when it comes to
breastfeeding.
At every single prenatal and post-natal appointment, doctors and nurses
tell expecting parents
about the miraculous benefits of
breastfeeding.
I mean, I knew that formula was a perfectly suitable alternative to
breastfeeding, but the list of BS things I
told myself
about formula feeding was a long one and, well, that list left me feeing anything other than confident and happy in my decision.
I would listen in great interest whenever anyone had something to
tell me
about birth,
breastfeeding, parenting etc..
Anyone who
tells you this doesn't know the first thing
about breastfeeding.
Once you know
about the pause you can cut through so much of the nonsense
breastfeeding mothers are being
told — such as «Feed the baby twenty minutes on each side».
That's AEROflowinc.com to start the process and if you're already
breastfeeding, they do have that online store that Courtney was
telling you
about with breast pumps supplies and accessories and you can use our special promo code which is newmommy, N E W M O M M Y, and get 10 % off your order at www.aeroflowmomandbaby.com.
He
told me that he'd only do it for a mother who was incredibly passionate
about breastfeeding, and he could only do the tongue, and not the lip.
They have been at pre-school for a year now, and for those worried
about kids still
breastfeeding at that age I can say they don't ask for it at pre-school (too much other stuff running through their minds I guess), they don't get bullied
about it because they haven't
told the other kids that they
breastfeed (too much other stuff running through their minds I guess), and when they start big school next year, if they are still nursing, I expect it to be much the same.
People may
tell you horror stories
about breastfeeding babies biting so hard that they drew blood.
Just
tell the truth
about breastfeeding.
It must be so hard to be a dude with an opinion that nobody cares
about, but that's the situation in which poor Bristol pubgoer Sheldon Sparks finds himself after complaining to the Internet
about seeing a woman
breastfeeding, only to be
told to shut up and mind his own business.
Dr. Marinelli, please
tell us a bit
about your background and how you came to be so passionate
about supporting
breastfeeding.
I couldn't believe that she would keep suggesting this when she knew that my little boy ended up hospitalised with dehydration and massive weight loss because he just couldn't get the hang of
breastfeeding even when I was literally leaking with milk and I'd
told her I was still struggling coming to terms with how poorly he'd been and how guilty I felt
about it.
So many women don't
breastfeed, because they were
told they «can't» for whatever reason (and of course I'm not talking
about the 1 % of women who are legitimately medically incapable of
breastfeeding), so when they see another mother doing it, they feel a combination of resentment towards themselves and guilt, and then turn that resentment outwards onto the mother.
This one poster (who tends to be less enlightened than most of the posters on there) started howling
about how she had every right to do that, for the transgendered person to stop whining, and then started comparing it to everyone on the site who
told her she was stupid / evil / poisoning her daughter by not
breastfeeding.
Perhaps the most important fact
about breastfeeding, and one that Nestlé certainly will not
tell parents, is this: biased information
about breastfeeding is everywhere.
Sometimes healthcare providers get into the act,
telling breastfeeding mothers they should watch the clock to make sure their baby
breastfeeds «long enough to get the hindmilk,» with the number of minutes recommended varying by adviserWhat do we really need to know
about foremilk and hindmilk?
So here I am to
tell you
about the myriad problems you can run into when you're
breastfeeding — and what you can do to make things better.
To
tell you the truth I did not know much
about breastfeeding back then.
I had no idea that was an option and, like you, was following what I'd been
told about exclusively
breastfeeding.
Suzanne: Dr. Marinelli, please
tell us a bit
about your background and how you came to be so passionate
about supporting
breastfeeding.
Although WHO and other health advocates raise the importance of
breastfeeding during the first two years of life and beyond, Nestlé
tells investors its own first 1000 days strategy is
about Nestlé product solutions.
Once you know
about the pause you can cut through so much of the nonsense
breastfeeding mothers are being
told.
Another woman before her
told me she didn't talk
about her
breastfeeding journey except around a few key friends because it was so discouraging and difficult she didn't want anyone else to feel sorry for her or not try
breastfeeding out of fear that they would have a similar experience.
I've already had a few young women message me
about breastfeeding and ask for help,
telling me how I make them more confident to
breastfeed.»
I knew nothing
about clefts and next to nothing
about the mechanics of
breastfeeding, but my instincts
told me that we could do it — we could at least try.
If you're worried
about a medication, or have been
told that you can't
breastfeed while taking a medication, you can call their hotline 806-352-2519 or visit www.infantrisk.com for the most up - to - date information.
I cloth diaper,
breastfeed, and make my own baby food so when a friend
told me
about amber teething necklaces I had to try it out.
If you have no idea what those are, you're in luck, because Dianne Cassidy will
tells us all
about them, along with why there seems to be a tongue tie resurgence, how it can affect your best
breastfeeding intentions, and what you can do
about it.
Also, lactation consultants and other actual
breastfeeding experts don't typically go around giving drive - by expert
breastfeeding advice so, chances are, if someone is randomly trying to
tell you your business while you're trying to
breastfeed your baby, they probably don't have a clue what they're talking
about.
So she was out in public with her eight week old son and it says that she was at a cafe and she happened to be
breastfeeding her baby and it says an elderly women, in not sure if it actually lists her name or sorry her age, but anyway this elderly women comes up to her and honestly the mom was like «oh no, she's going to
tell me to cover up, she's going to be like, be mean
about this or you know or how dare I be, you know doing this in public kind of thing» and the only thing the elderly wanted to do was to help the mom be able to eat.
Breastfeeding pain is generally under the category of «Why didn't anyone ever
tell be
about this before I had a baby?!»