When you can effectively heal by accepting and showing love of your child,
traditional child discipline techniques such as withdrawing your love by becoming angry, using threats or bribes become unnecessary.
I have now spoken a bit about the potential of using the unconditional parenting as a replacement of
traditional child discipline techniques.
Not exact matches
The natural disorder of
children expresses itself in the tyrannical will to power over others, and the conventional response of parents is to subdue this desire with the
discipline of the
traditional virtues.
In the same way that the zero - tolerance approach to
discipline sends precisely the opposite psychological message to disadvantaged kids than what we now know they need in order to feel motivated and engaged with school, so do many basic elements of
traditional American pedagogy work in direct opposition to what the psychological research tells us will help those
children succeed.
Interestingly, I have since had a non-HSC
child and have found that, while
traditional discipline may «work» for him and not my HSC, gentle, positive
discipline actually works well for both of them.
I'm a firm believer in teaching our
children discipline but they also need to be safe, there are 30 other cabinets in my kitchen to learn with while still locking up my crystal and china (I don't have
traditional cleaners so that's not an issue).
They want to break the cycle of using
traditional discipline methods that compromise the parent -
child relationship, and they are forging their way in a new direction.
A time - in modifies the
traditional time - out in that it gives tantrumming
children a break to calm down and self - regulate before other positive
discipline techniques are used, rather than using isolation as a form of punishment as in the
traditional time - out.
In
traditional discipline I can not imagine what would have happened to a
child who had gotten up to such mischief.
If you've never felt comfortable with
traditional punishments for your
child, then positive
discipline might be the type of
discipline you want to try.
With
traditional discipline, the parent's life is made easier - the
child's needs are secondary.
But in many
traditional cultures, people don't expect much self -
discipline from
children until they are 6 or 7.
Traditional discipline methods can be ineffective and even potentially damaging for adopted
children -
children who have experienced loss.
A
child who has never had a secure attachment may not respond to
traditional parenting and
discipline.
For example, dissatisfaction with performance in a charter middle school that is not captured by test scores (such as
discipline issues or a poor fit between the student's interests or ability and the curriculum being offered) could lead parents to choose to send their
child to a
traditional public high school.
While the choice is often cast as being between desiccated
traditional disciplines and mindless
child - centered progressive schools, the school her sons attended was both «academically vigorous and pedagogically venturesome.»
To paraphrase Mitchel Resnick of MIT's Media Lab and David Siegel, co-founder of the hedge fund Two Sigma: If coding is going to make a true difference in
children's lives, it is important to move beyond the
traditional view of the
discipline as simply a technical skill, or just a pipeline to getting a technical job.
Across the country, educators like Udis have been seeking new ways to move beyond
traditional «punishment» and provide opportunities for all
children to learn self -
discipline.
There is already talk that the Trump Administration will gut the Department of Education's Office for Civil Rights, which has worked vigilantly under the administrations of George W. Bush and Barack Obama to address issues such as overuse of harsh
traditional school
discipline against Black and American Indian
children.
If you want to get a better sense of the shoddiness of the arguments of opponents of school
discipline reform, especially when it comes to the Department of Education's guidance on reducing the overuse of harsh school
discipline, simply look at the
traditional districts represented in Congress by Rep. Andy Harris of Maryland, who this morning, complained that the four - year - old Dear Colleague letter made school leaders «afraid» to
discipline children in their care.
For example, with support from Morningside Center, the group worked through the difference between a
traditional view of
discipline as «punishment» versus an approach that, in Maria's words, «lets
children have a chance to reflect on their behavior, to encourage
children to have more autonomy so they can learn to make good decisions on their own.»
Birbalsingh, who is a supporter of
traditional discipline, has previously argued that «poor
children are kept poor» in English schools because of a culture of «low expectations».
In that report, Eden concludes that the school
discipline reform efforts by Bloomberg, de Blasio and their respective chancellors have led to
traditional district schools in the Big Apple becoming less safe for teachers and
children.
As for cultural diversity, research has shown that schools that do the best job of educating low - income students tend to favor a
traditional curriculum, strict
discipline, and a paternalistic environment, whereas typical middle - class schools tend to be less structured and more
child - centric.
That many in the school reform movement have either been reluctant or outright hostile about working with Black Lives Matter and criminal justice reform activists on addressing issues that are tied to schools (including overuse of harsh school
discipline and the penchant of
traditional districts to refer
children to juvenile courts), has also made it easy for NEA and AFT to win over some activists.
Meanwhile Moskowitz has some explaining to do on her end — and not just about Success» use of
traditional school
discipline policies that are damaging to the futures of
children.
While some Success Academy parents believe the network is preparing their
children for the future better than their
traditional public schools, others resent the levels of
discipline in the school and began looking for other options for the following year (Spear, 2015).
Ariadne Brill investigates time outs and identifies common signs this
traditional discipline technique may not be working for your
child.
Victims of previous abuse or neglect are far more often identified as «problem
children» than are their peers and show higher rates of diagnosis with attention problems and violent and oppositional behaviors.27 Caregivers and teachers often respond to these behaviors in the
traditional fashion: warnings become more brusque (and often louder) and
discipline more strict (and often more punitive).
10 Habits to Shape a Kind, Well - Adjusted
Child by Rebecca Eanes Many times, I see parents who are intently focused on
discipline, and I'm talking about the
traditional use of the word here with regard to modifying behavior.
I understand that
traditional approaches to
disciplining children are influenced by culture.
Adopted
children have often had unfortunate experiences that may increase misbehavior and make
traditional discipline techniques ineffective.
For example, with support from Morningside Center, the group worked through the difference between a
traditional view of
discipline as «punishment» versus an approach that, in Maria's words, «lets
children have a chance to reflect on their behavior, to encourage
children to have more autonomy so they can learn to make good decisions on their own.»
Traditional discipline methods no longer work with today's
children and they destroy your ability to influence your increasingly vulnerable
children who need you as their lifeline!
I have chosen to present these quotes in this parenting article because I think his words really capture the essence of
traditional - and sorry to say so - old fashioned
child discipline techniques.