Attentiveness is present when
we truly listen to the other person, when we contemplate the other person.
Literary critic William Deresiewicz discusses his charming new memoir, A Jane Austen Education, and Austen's timeless appeal.Your book describes a series of «life lessons» you learned by reading Jane Austen's novels, such as how to
truly listen to other people's stories and the value of a true friend.
Not exact matches
Instead of focusing on what you're going
to say next, tune in
to the
other person and
listen carefully — with the goal
to truly understand their problem.
Listen Humble themselves (that is, don't control the situation, and don't assume they understand or perceive the situation perfectly) Identify how they contributed
to the situation (whether consciously or unconsciously, directly or indirectly) Take responsibility Apologise Allow the
other person to express what they want done (and do it, if it is within the pastor's ability, and
truly helpful) Support the
other person's decisions, even if the pastor disagree with them Empower the
other person at every step Part friends if possible, and at peace, if at all possible (and never go
to court — Jesus and Paul call this dangerous and ridiculous, respectively)
When we
truly listen to each
other with a heart
to understand, it changes the dialogue and, hopefully, reminds us that they are
people God created
to be welcomed and loved into the family of Christ.
In
other news, our team seems
to be rounding nicely into form, with a productive off - season and several new additions already settling in, there seems
to be a renewed sense of confidence in the air... our well - oiled machine has conducted business again early this year, so we can just sit back, kick our feet up and watch all those
other suckers scramble
to make panic moves in the 11th hour... of course, we need
to tie up a few loose ends but our team of savvy negotiators, under the tutelage of our faithful leader, will perform their usual magic with ample time
to spare... I have
to laugh when I look around the soccer world and see all those teams look upon us with envy and scorn as they struggle
to mimic our seemingly infallible business model... thank goodness the powers that be had the foresight and fortitude
to resist the temptations of the modern football era... instead of
listening to all the experts and simply taking the easy way out by making the necessary improvements on the field and in the front office, we chose the path never traveled... we are
truly pioneers in our field... sometimes you just have
to have faith in the
people that have always conducted themselves in a respectful and honest fashion... most fans aren't so fortunate, they will never know what it's like
to follow a team that treats everyone in and around the club as if they were an extended member of the family... all for one I say... so when you wake up this morning, please try not
to gloat when you see rival fans pacing back and forth waiting for their respective teams
to pull the usual panic buys, just say nothing and be thankful that it isn't you... like I've always said, this is why you stay the course... this is when the real benefits of having someone in charge for over 2 decades really pays off... have a great day fellow Gunners
This book is for the parents who wanted
to breastfeed and couldn't; women who are conflicted about nursing and want
to make a
truly informed decision about what
to do with their bodies; breast - feeding advocates and care providers who are willing
to listen to the myriad reasons that women may choose not
to nurse; and for
people who are curious about the
other side of this worldwide baby - feeding frenzy.
By
other people than myself I have been called warm, caring, compassionate, a great listener who
truly wants
to listen.
However, unlike in previous years, the subject was not necessarily introduced by the resident bitcoin investor, and — perhaps for the first time — the
other people at the table
truly listened when he or she explained what has fueled the bitcoin price's dramatic year -
to - date increase.
Spigarelli recommends that you repeat the important things that the
other person is saying
to show you're
truly listening: «I understand it takes longer than 15 minutes
to fix the cable.
Although the non-depressed partner should never be made entirely responsible for the depressed partner's feelings, it goes along way if the non-depressed partner is willing
to listen and show that he or she
truly cares about what might be bothering the
other person.
It can't be an easy job
to try
to patch up communication problems and relationship difficulties that span decades at times between couples, but there is an art
to truly listen to each
other and an even greater skill
to teach that
to people who need it the most.