I know last month's article was a little depressing but it was important and here's why: We take daily actions in pursuit of a better life, to move away from pain and towards happiness, while
the underlying emotions of fear and greed drive us.
Not exact matches
It is important to recognize some
of the common pitfalls
of trading and the
emotions — euphoria,
fear, excitement, anger, greed — that
underlie them.
If you are are fearful
of spiders and tend to scream when you see one, if you are slapped in the face for screaming, this will not change the
underlying emotion; actually, now you may have two
fears: the
fear of spiders and the
fear of being slapped on top
of that!
«Coming to the workshop helped to demystify the problems in our relationship — why and how we were getting stuck, how we can go about resolving it, and pulling out
of our cycle, and discovering the
underlying emotions and
fears that hold us back and stand in our way.»
Once partners become more aware
of their
underlying needs,
fears, and longings, they are helped to communicate with each other on the basis
of these more tender and vulnerable
emotions.
Maintain control
of the session and don't let your own
fear hijack your ability to attune to the
underlying emotions of your clients.»
Working with a live couple — in session, Dr. Liu skillfully demonstrates moving from content to process, identifying the couple's negative cycle, accessing the partners» primary
emotions and attachment needs and
fears, reframing the presenting issue in terms
of the
underlying emotions and attachment needs, and terminating the session.
Underlying emotion: Child feels badly for each parent and is scared that something bad will happen to each
of them unless the child emotionally supports them; also, child
fears being emotionally abandoned by either or both parents.
Step 4: The therapist reframes key issues for the couple in terms
of negative patterns
of interaction,
underlying emotions and
fears, and each individual's attachment needs.