Unhappy couple relationships are associated with impaired individual health, an effect thought to be mediated through ongoing couple conflicts.
Research reveals that what lies at the heart of
unhappy couple relationships can best be thought of not as some quality inherent in the partners, but as a failure to repair the inevitable conflicts and disjunctions that occur in any couple.
Not exact matches
Rather than implementing prohibitive rules that make for distracted and
unhappy employees, it's far better to prepare some sensible guidelines for your company to cope with the
relationships that will inevitably arise, and in a manner that is helpful to everyone, from the
couple's managers to their colleagues.
While past generations of
couples have taken the attitude of «grin and bear it» when difficulties have arisen in their
relationship, these days most
couples are less willing to tolerate an
unhappy marriage for very long without trying something, such as books, DVD's, workshops, or
couples» retreats.
If one person in a
relationship is sexually
unhappy, it's a problem for the
couple.
COMMEND YOURSELF for being brave Many
couples stay in
unhappy relationships out of apathy, laziness or fear.
No matter how
unhappy the
couple is when they begin counseling, if they are motivated to work on themselves and their
relationship, improvement is possible.
Gottman researchers studied thousands of
couples — those who were
unhappy and those who were happy, some for more than 20 years — to learn what behaviors enhance or harm
relationships.
Relationship researchers are finding evidence that may be unsettling to many married
couples: Sexual affairs aren't limited to those in
unhappy unions.
This «habit» limits the capacity for the development of trust and mutual understating on the long term and causes
couples to stay
unhappy and disconnected in their
relationship.
Instead of being accountable and taking significant steps toward the recovery of a struggling
relationship,
unhappy couples usually stay passive thinking that their lack of satisfaction isn't their fault and that in time the situation will somehow change and things will be as they were before (when the
couple was still deeply in love).
Over the years I have helped thousands of men and women fix their marriages and
unhappy relationships and also bring back the love and communication to
couples that are suffering.
Couples therapy may be the best way to change an
unhappy relationship.
Orbuch's research found that 11.5 percent of
unhappy couples cited a lack of privacy as the main reason for their
relationship dissatisfaction.
Psychologist
couple John and Julie Gottman have found the overwhelming traits that define happy and
unhappy relationships, whether the
couple is gay, straight, rich or poor.
Individual and
couple counselling to assist people who are feeling betrayed, confused, lonely, bored, sexually dissatisfied, trapped,
unhappy, abused or abusive in their current
relationship.
Gottman decided to answer this question by trying something very simple: Recording married
couples talking for 15 minutes about a recent conflict that they were having in their
relationship, and then carefully scrutinizing these recordings to see how happy and
unhappy couples behaved differently.
The data analysis indicated that those in low quality marriages (i.e., the
couple members were
unhappy and unfulfilled in their
relationships) tended to report being more lonely, even after accounting for the other demographic and psychological variables.
According to
relationship and marriage expert Dr. John Gottman,
couples wait an average of six years of being
unhappy before getting help.
My breakthrough research has shown consistent differences between happy and
unhappy couples, but one fact holds true: all
relationships, even the most successful, experience conflict.
With a desire to help build strong families, Dr. John Gottman spent years studying hundreds of
couples to discover what it was that distinguished happy
relationships from
unhappy ones.
I help
couples who are
unhappy in their
relationship, caught up in an endless negative cycle that leaves them both feeling angry, hurt and alone.
Happy
couples have different daily interactions with each other that keep the romance alive as compared to
unhappy couples, suggests Mark Goulston, psychiatrist and author of «The 6 Secrets of a Lasting
Relationship.»
When you and / or your partner feel
unhappy in your Long - Term Love
Relationship (LTLR) and stuck at that place, unable to make things better then it is time to seek help from a trained
couples therapist.
In fact, the research shows that up to 69 % of all disagreements between a
couple are unsolvable, regardless of whether they are in a happy or
unhappy relationship.
Understanding this may help
couples take a braver and more open approach and take corrective action sooner rather than later if one or both are
unhappy in their
relationship.
If you are feeling stuck, misunderstood, and
unhappy in your
relationship, I urge you to try
couples counseling with your partner.
However, while some therapists help
unhappy partners gain a new perspective that can help both themselves and their
relationship, others — especially therapists with no training in
couples or family therapy — may further undermine shaky marriages.
If you are like most
couples, even the
unhappiest of
couples, you have invested a lot of time and emotion into your partner and your
relationship.
But, John Gottman — the premier researcher on
relationships — found that happily married
couples experience as much conflict as
unhappy couples.
I am delighted that I can now offer Drs. John and Julie Gottman's research - based marriage and
relationship checkup for both new and existing clients, workshop attendees,
couples planning to marry,
couples who simply want to enrich their marriage, or
couples who are
unhappy and long for ways to make their
relationship more of what they both want.
I have the pleasure every week of helping
couples stop fighting, regain a sense of closeness, rekindle their love for each other, feel secure, build trust, recover from affairs, be happy in their
relationship, overcome jealousy, and deal with many other
relationship concerns that keep
couples distant and
unhappy.
The high rate of failed
relationships and the soaring number of
unhappy couples seeking counseling services confirm this.
Gottman studied
couples for over 30 years and has scientifically identified specific
relationship skills / tools that happy
couples use (that
unhappy couples often don't use).
When
couples are in the midst of an
unhappy marriage, the tendency is to blame one another for the problems in the
relationship.
Great
couple relationships require being able to understand your partner's needs and recognizing signs when they are
unhappy.
He says, «
Couples that describe their
relationship history as chaotic are usually
unhappy in the present.»
The book is dense with revelations, from the unexpected popularity of certain sexual positions, to the average number of times happy — and
unhappy —
couples kiss, to the prevalence of lying, to the surprising loyalty most men and women feel for their partner (even when in a deteriorating
relationship), to the vivid and idiosyncratic ways individuals of different ages, genders and nationalities describe their «ideal romantic evening.»
A study out of the University of Michigan has reported that
couples who did not regularly engage in their own personal activities had even higher cases of self - reported levels of
relationship dissatisfaction than
couples who were
unhappy with their sex lives.
Emotionally disconnected
unhappy couples eventually have problems with depression, addiction and affairs that threaten or destroy the
relationship.
If she seems so
unhappy in your
relationship and you don't know what to do,
couples counseling would probably help.
Many New York
couples have come to my office, not because they have spare time, but because they're scared if they don't, their misery will get worse, their
relationship will end, or they'll end up staying in a very
unhappy relationship for too long, or be stuck indefinitely.
The study states that
couples who were
unhappy with the
relationship five years into their marriage had a 20 % increase in negative communication patterns, including nagging.