At the same time, many
unhappy couples say they feel trapped, unable to afford a breakup.
Which Dr. Ted Hudson explained that when
the unhappy couples said, «We're incompatible» they were truly meaning, «We don't get along very well».
Dr. Hudson explains that when
the unhappy couples said, «we're incompatible» they were truly meaning, «We don't get along very well.»
Not exact matches
The husbands of
unhappy couples tended to
say that twice a week was more than their wives wanted but was satisfactory to them; their wives tended to report that it was just right for them, but less than their husbands wanted.
Friends of theirs had gotten divorced and when she asked the wife what percentage of the time they would
say they were happy, the wife responded 20 percent, then revised it to 2 percent and later bumped up to 3 percent (probably because wives are generally
unhappier than husbands although it's unclear if the
couple is hetero or same - sex).
Some 67 percent of
couples say they feel «very
unhappy» after a baby is born, according to the findings of Seattle's famed Gottman Institute.
If it's a second marriage with blended families, either conclusion can prove
unhappy for the survivors if the
couple has not made a financial agreement in advance, she
says.
Most
unhappy men who agree to go to
couples therapy feel inadequate in their marriage, Solomon
said.
It wouldn't be fair, or true, to
say that
unhappy couples are making themselves
unhappy on purpose.
In fact, «happy
couples fight just as much and about the same things as
unhappy couples, Hummel
said.
The authors
said they were not looking at what makes parents happy or
unhappy — they were specifically looking at why, although most German
couples say they would like to have two children, they end up stopping after one.
But when the
unhappy couples were asked what they thought about compatibility, they all answered by
saying that compatibility is extremely important to a marriage.
Most
unhappy couples are in Negative Sentiment Override, which is a way of
saying they have a tendency to perceive harmless or neutral comments as negative.
«The main difference between happy and
unhappy couples is that the
unhappy couple lacks coping skills,»
says Jane Greer, Ph.D., creator of the media commentary «Shrink Wrap with Dr. Jane Greer» and author of What About Me?
He
says, «
Couples that describe their relationship history as chaotic are usually
unhappy in the present.»
Many
unhappy couples are now calling it quits, local divorce attorneys and real - estate agents
say, for one simple reason: Home prices have been rising, which means they can finally get some start - over cash out of houses that used to be underwater.