There is always a truth that hides within our own disturbing,
unnerving feelings about our child, and it is a truth that deserves to be uncovered — which is best done by continuing to feel disturbed and unnerved.
And you're absolutely right, when you see someone standing with a clipboard watching you, with full attention on you and you only, in say a group exercise, in a group discussion, and see them writing notes
about you, you
feel — and I put it in the book «like a bug in a jar» as if some small child is peering at you with intensity — and that is both a compliment, actually, that they want to attend to you, but also quite
unnerving.