It will be so easy to get
upset at your partner, but you just have to remember that you are in this together and that you are a team.
So next time you feel
upset at your partner, check out what's going on inside yourself — at the very least — pause and reflect before you place the blame on them.
Not exact matches
He recalled telling Dean that his business
partner Greg Serio was «very
upset» about Adam's gig as a $ 78,000 - a-year program director
at PRI.
4 % of internet users in a committed relationship have gotten
upset at something that they found out their spouse or
partner was doing online.
«AISD officials had to struggle with the competing agendas of numerous outside
partners such as Austin's business leaders, the «First Things First» program of the Institute for Research and Reform in Education, the University of Pittsburgh Institute for Learning's work in «Disciplined Literacy,» the Dana Center for Mathematics
at the University of Texas, the Gates and Dell Foundations, and other organizations... As one
upset veteran high school teacher put it: «We're getting this academy, and then... we're going to do this and that....
It seems healthy to want to make sure your relationship stays peaceful and no one gets
upset... but if that comes
at the cost of talking honestly to your
partner about your feelings, and having to keep things to yourself in order to avoid arguments, then it's an incredibly toxic habit that needs to be broken.
There tend to be three elements in a good start to talking about
upsets: 1) Talking about one's own perceptions by describing the event, recognizing this is your own perception and not probably your
partner has a different perception; 2) Expressing your feeling about what happened; and 3) Stating what you needed
at the time, or need now.
Yet your
partner may feel that if you are this
upset, you probably want to leave the marriage or
at least need counseling.
I worked with a couple where one person got very
upset about their
partner's gregarious nature
at parties.
We tend to be egocentric and assume our
partner is pulling away because they are
upset at us, not because they are having an internal conflict.
When contempt begins to overwhelm your relationship you tend to forget entirely your
partner's positive qualities,
at least while you're feeling
upset.
Secure people tend to trust their
partners more and get less
upset at the thought of a romantic rival.
They could resist being touched or comforted when they're
upset, or they could go from being happy to furious
at the drop of a hat, leaving their
partners scratching their heads.
When your
partner is
upset, whether
at you or
at someone else, empathizing with them and validating what they say will help you successfully navigate conflict.
Our
partner makes a certain face and we assume they are angry or annoyed so we react to that when, in fact they may not feel that way and might get
upset back
at our reaction.
Most us us get
upset at the notion that we are not respecting our
partner.