In 1 study34 of 320 middle - class parents who
used spanking for discipline, 85 % reported feeling «moderate to high anger, remorse, or agitation» while spanking their children.
When Jennifer Lansford and her colleagues tracked a group of children for more than a decade, they found links between spanking and aggressive behavior problems, but the effect depended on how long parents
used spanking as a disciplinary tactic.
I was adamant that I would
use spanking as a method of punishment in our home... before I became a mother.
Regardless of whether one is a person who
uses spanking for discipline or not, this particular statement takes it to a level that is unacceptable.
Half of moms would use yelling first to scold their child; 36 percent say they'd
use spanking; and 32 percent say they'd use a time - out.
If
you use spanking as a punishment, your child will be confused about why you're allowed to hit and he's not.
Put another way, today's moms are 39 percent less likely to
use spanking than their parents.
Other mothers simply feel that spanking isn't effective: «I don't plan on
using spanking — I think it teaches children to «behave» out of fear, not because they've learned right from wrong.»
Developing mental health symptoms can be serious, and if giving up spanking can help prevent it, then it's time to stop
using spanking as a discipline method.
What struck me most about the poll was not that there are parents who happily
use spanking, but the large amount of voters who fell into the C category, or reluctant spankers.
Still, others
use spanking as a last resort — when no other discipline methods have worked.
I have very negative feelings of being spanked as a child, and I would love to not
use spanking at all for our children.
My mother is horrified that my husband and I have made the decision to
use spanking when necessary (and it hasn't been an easy choice for me).
I think most parents that spank are well intentioned with it, and try to use more gentle approaches first and
use spanking as a «last resort»
Where in the word does it say to only
use spankings for true rebellion?
«That's why psychologists trained parents to
use spanking that way for 25 years [from the] late»60s to mid -»90s,» he said.
If
you use spanking, punitive timeouts, logical consequences, or other forms of punishments, try to move toward non-punitive discipline.
If you are
using spanking for toddler discipline, you are setting example of using violence to solve problems.
Some parents
use spanking because they think that their toddlers will be highly obedient if they use physical punishment.
Don't
use spanking in child disciplining.
Babies targeted for spanking are are more likely to have fussy or difficult temperaments, so perhaps parents
use spanking as a response to crying or tantrums (MacKenzie et al 2011).
As many people who
use spanking are writing they say that it should be used in the right way?
It's a little snug in the stomach area and hips so a medium would maybe be with my hips being 39.8 but I am losing weight and will
use spanks.
If
you use spanking, punitive timeouts, logical consequences, or other forms of punishments, try to move toward non-punitive discipline.
As a therapist, I do not encourage parents to
use spanking as a means for discipline.
Not exact matches
Fewer rescuers than non-rescuers reported being slapped,
spanked, kicked, and beaten or having their hair pulled by parents; 3) Many more non-rescuers than rescuers perceived punishment as gratuitous — a cathartic release of aggressiveness by parents; and 4) Rescuers most frequently
used the word explained to describe parental approaches to correction and discipline.
The Pearls advocate
using switches on babies and young as six months, and
spanking older children with belts and plumbing tubes.
the point of the joke is nothing to do with the
spanking, but with the kid's
using his poor interpretation of scripture to defend himself
I tend to recoil if someone proclaims to me that it is biblical to
spank or
use a rod to discipline your child.
I was especially happy for my brand
spanking new Shun Edo Santoku knife, so excited that I cut my finger as soon as I
used it and was very close to visiting an emergency room on Christmas to possibly get stitches.
Get some Krud Kutter and spray it on, then let it sit for about 15 minutes or so, then
use a Mr. Clean Magic sponge and the pot will look brand
spanking new!
Spank yourself with the wooden spoon you should be
using and go buy Ragu.
Our guys don't
spank the monkey
using pornography as much as on other teams.
Opposed to this, Arsenal was recently embarrassed by Liverpool and were duly
spanked because Wenger got his formation for his available players wrong and
used the wrong tactics.
A deserved
spanking and welcome reality check which should be
used to get some perspective and focus but I tell you they still have alot of growing up to do and we must sign a clinical striker in January.
Carina also told me, «It's rare that we
use it [
spanking] as a discipline (hate
using it when there is any other alternative).
My mother
used consistency, manual labor,
spanking when necessary, removal of privileges and taking away our toys / electronics.
do the children of parents who
use controlled
spanking accept their punishment and offer up their hand or rear to be swatted?
Unlike my mother, I
use nothing but my hand to
spank with.
SO, I agree that if your child will respond to more gentle discipline, by ALL means
use it, but in some circumstances a
spanking may be called for.
Don't get me wrong, we
used to
spank.
Now when she (and our baby on the way) are older, we are going to
use different punishment techniques because no matter how much you
spank a teenager, you get your point across better if you take away something they love.
Commenter Susan of Lil Mom That Could admits that she
used to
spank, but doesn't anymore.
Several moms in our survey admitted to
spanking even though they don't believe in it, and then
used their slip - up as a way to teach an important lesson: Everyone makes mistakes.
We should honor our kid not to
spank her, shame her or
use ugly words which only can kill her self - confidence.
This parent is stern and controlling, likely to have lots of rules and to
spank or
use other punitive measures.
BabyCenter recently conducted an exclusive survey to uncover the «bottom line» on
spanking and other discipline techniques
used by today's parents.
Discipline (
spanking or no
spanking, time out or Magic 123), teething (
use medicine, herbal relief or ignore it) and when to ditch the bottle are three I've been hearing a lot on lately.
Although most moms who answered our survey — 81 percent — were
spanked as children, only 49 percent say they
use this method in disciplining their own kids.
Yelling beat
spanking as the number one method moms would
use if their child ran out into the street.