Looking for the «soft» or,
vulnerable emotions underneath someone's hard display of anger, will help keep you connected as you are better equipped to empathize with that person's true emotion.
Not exact matches
They then need help accessing those more
vulnerable feelings
underneath it all and speaking to each other about the deeper
emotions at play.
In order to do this, both you and your partner, need to understand that
underneath anger or indifference, often lie needs, longings, and more
vulnerable emotions.
Can they identify a
vulnerable emotion related to hurt or fear
underneath their typical pursuit or withdrawal — even if they choose not to share it at that moment?
Take a few minutes and review the steps in your cycle to see if you can 1) identify the secondary
emotions (anger, for example) that mask the more
vulnerable, primary
emotions (insecurity or loneliness, for example)
underneath; 2) identify the ideas you come up with about your partner and the relationship; and, 3) identify the associated behaviors you engage in.