I don't believe the emotions felt by mothers who don't breastfeed or who
wean early
are as simple as «guilt»: when we really examine mothers» feelings
about things gone wrong, it
is rarely guilt that they
are expressing, especially
about not breastfeeding or not breastfeeding as long or as completely as they would have liked to: well informed mothers who reach for the bottle after a struggle with breastfeeding know they have done the best they could with the resources they had at the time (health, energy, knowledge, support)-- these mothers may feel deeply
sad and disappointed, they may
be grieving, but guilt isn't an appropriate label for these overwhelming feelings of loss for themselves and their babies.
If you decide to do this one, I would recommend: 1) dropping all pacifier
weaning talk until you
are actually ready to begin the
weaning process, and 2) timing it so the «goodbye» day lands on something awesome and positive, like his birthday or birthday party day or special family outing that will keep him from feeling
sad about it.