Changing according to the scenario is
what authoritative parenting style recommends.
Here, MomJunction explains
what authoritative parenting means, its benefits, and why it is considered the best form of parenting.
As much as I'd always believed in
what authoritative parenting represents, in practice, I find myself veering off at times into practices that are more authoritarian (I grew up with parents who were loving but sometimes very strict) and often times, even permissive.
Not exact matches
When kids do something wrong,
authoritative parents will discipline by trying to guide and teach their kids, and modify
what they expect from kids depending on the situation and a child's individual needs.
What is
authoritative parenting?
Here's
what I learned after spending a week trying my best to be an
authoritative parent.
For all the (often, exasperated) talk about how «
parents these days» are raising «kids these days» to be spoiled, unruly brats, many
parents of our generation are actually succeeding at
what researchers have found is the most effective
parenting style:
authoritative parenting.
Instead of reacting with anger and telling her to go to her room and think about
what she'd done (our normal model), I stayed in my
authoritative parenting space and picked her up and took her to her room and asked her if she could spend time in her room to «cool down a little bit.
Authoritative parents let their children make choices and allow them to express
what they want in life.
Rather than simply following the rules because they fear punishment (as they might with authoritarian
parents), the children of
authoritative parents are able to see why the rules exist, understand that they are fair and acceptable, and strive to follow these rules to meet their own internalized sense of
what is right and wrong.
What Is
Authoritative Parenting?
Even though your
parents have more life experience than you, want the best for you and know
what you're like as a person, this doesn't necessarily mean their career advice is
authoritative.
This will give you a chance to analyze whether you fall into one of the least recommended
parenting styles and
what you can do to look more like an
Authoritative Parent on a daily basis!
If you wish to understand more about this
parenting style than
what you're reading on this
parenting style quiz page, you can get deep insights in this
authoritative parenting article or academic viewpoints in article on the
authoritative parenting style
What I do know is that it certainly fits within the framework of
authoritative parenting.
Her study ended with
what became the all time famous theory on the 3
parenting styles: the authoritarian (the behaviorist approach), permissive (Freudian) and the
authoritative.
Please, remember that people have different opinions as to
what constitutes e.g. permissive
parenting or
authoritative parenting.
The authors do a nice job in providing an overview of the different
parenting styles and they are in line with
what I suggest in my article regarding the most effective ways to say no (as an
authoritative versus authoritarian
parent):
This blog specifically tried to clarify
what my students often confuse - the difference between
authoritative and authoritarian
parenting.