Research on
what makes a marriage work shows that people in a good marriage have completed these psychological «tasks»:
This blog also has latest information and research on
what makes marriage work and why some succeed and some fail.
This project put me in touch with the current thinking of the time on
what makes marriage work and what doesn't.
Interviewed by Denise Kirsten Wills for a feature article entitled «Lessons in Love: Some couples are learning
what makes marriage work — before the wedding, which appeared in Washingtonian Magazine, June 2006, pp. 163 - 66.
As a couples therapist I spend much of my time thinking about
what makes marriage work, and the topic set me thinking not only about why people separate, but how they separate.
Since starting his career, he has focused his clinical and research interests on understanding
what makes marriage work and how to help couples create strong and satisfying relationships.
What makes a marriage work?
A 2007 Pew Research Center study asked couples «
What makes marriage work?»
Lesli Doares has had a life - long curiosity about
what makes marriage work.
My training in the Gottman Method draws on John Gottman PhD's thirty years of researching couples and
what makes marriage work.
What makes marriage work?
-- John Gottman John Gottman, PhD, is a psychologist who has devoted the last thirty years to researching the answer to the question, «
What makes marriage work?»
In the interviews, the couples described their first meetings, courtship, decision to get married, the good and bad times, their philosophy of
what makes marriage work, and the way that their marriage has changed over the years.
Regardless of the manner in which you choose to air your differences, having a ratio of 5 - to - 1 where the positive feelings and actions outweigh the negative generally results in a satisfying marriage, according to John Gottman, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, and his co-author Nan Silver in the «Psychology Today» article «
What Makes Marriage Work?»
We offer a tools - based approach that provides education about
what makes marriage work and the skills for building a strong relationship.
Couple friends can also provide insight and ideas about
what makes a marriage work (or doesn't), and they can offer emotional support, says Kathleen Deal, PhD, professor emerita at the University of Maryland School of Social Work and author of Two Plus Two: Couples and Their Couple Friendships.
And thus, before they married, Charlene and Jamaal embarked on a team project to learn
what makes a marriage work, to be sure their relationship «had what it took,» Charlene said.
I spend much time trying to figure out
what makes a marriage work.
In a Psychology Today article titled «
What Makes Marriage Work,» Gottman writes that communication is key to a lasting marriage, even if that communication means arguing.
After being happily married for 40 years, Dr. Phil shares some of his thoughts about
what makes a marriage work.
If that's
what makes their marriage work, who am I to judge?
This series explores
what makes marriages work and shows single people how to navigate dating, happiness and chastity.
For more than 40 years, I've studied
what makes marriages work.
Further, it is a useful complement to Dr. John Gottman's concept of Love Maps, developed over 40 years of rigorous research on
what makes marriages work.
Based on their research conclusions, The Gottman Institute has drawn solid conclusions on
what makes marriages work, and what does not work, such that Dr. Gottman can observe a couple in conflict for five minutes and determine with over 90 % accuracy whether they will divorce, if they don't change their interactive patterns.
Not exact matches
If they are all adult and do not engage in the act of marrying children, and if plural
marriage works for them and
make thems happy,
what possible difference does it
make to anyone else?
The parables disclose with
what pleasure and tolerance he surveyed the broad scene of human activity: the merchant seeking pearls; the farmer sowing his fields; the real - estate man trying to buy a piece of land in which he had secret reason to believe a treasure lay buried; the dishonest secretary, who had been given notice,
making friends against the evil day among his employer's debtors by reducing their obligations; the five young women sleeping with lamps burning while the bridegroom tarried and unable to attend the
marriage because their sisters who had had foresight enough to bring additional oil refused to lend them any; the rich man whose guests for dinner all
made excuses; the man comfortably in bed with his children who gets up at midnight to help his importunate neighbor only because he despairs of getting rid of him otherwise; the king who is out to capture a city; the man who built his house upon the sand and lost it in the first storm of wind and rain; the queer employer who pays all of his men the same wage whether they have
worked the whole day or a single hour; the great lord who going to a distant land entrusts his property to his three servants and judges them by the success of their investments when he returns; the shepherd whose sheep falls into a ditch; the woman with ten pieces of silver who, losing one, lights the candle and sweeps diligently till she finds it, and
makes the finding of it the occasion of a celebration in which all of her neighbors are invited to share — and how long such a list might be!
However, as we look around today and ask
what conditions seem on the whole to
make for happiness in
marriage, we are driven to the curious conclusion that the more «civilized people become the less capable they seem of lifelong happiness with one partner» (p. 135) For a
marriage to
work requires that there «be a feeling of complete equality on both sides; there must be no interference with mutual freedom; there must be the most complete physical and mental intimacy; and there must be a certain similarity in regard to standards of value» (p. 143).
Also, if you want to come up with a better model for
marriage, you're going to have to
make some judgments about
what works in general.
All of which would
make me sad if I weren't so excited by
what Susan and I are
working on — models to
make marriage work better for those who want to marry while acknowledging that
marriage isn't for everyone (and that's OK — who wants to get «caught up in the hoopla» a la Kim Kardashian)-- and that divorce isn't a failure.
But if we're really talking about - honest - to - goodness, down - and - dirty, I'm - committed - to - doing -
what - it - takes - to -
make - this - relationship -
work commitment, then shouldn't a couple that takes commitment seriously be able to
work through infidelity — in whatever incarnation it comes to them — and keep their
marriage intact?
If you are
working on your
marriage daily and communicating often, you will be more likely to know
what your parenting boundaries look like and quicker to support your spouse on a decision that they've
made regarding the kids, even if it's something that you haven't discussed yet.
Still, as the book's subtitle says, Gilbert eventually finds a way to
make the idea of
marriage work for her, which is
what all of us tend to do anyway.
According to Amity Buxton of the Straight Spouse Network, «When the gay, lesbian, or bisexual spouse comes out, a third of the couples break up immediately; another third stay together for one to two years, sorting out
what to do and then divorce; the remaining third try to
make their
marriages work.
Longtime gay activist Ethan Geto recalled that when the Assembly passed the
marriage bill in 2007, «David, in
what may have been an unprecedented act for a lieutenant governor, or any executive official,
worked the floor of the State Assembly on the night that the vote on gay
marriage was about to occur, encouraging and cajoling assemblymembers to support the bill and, importantly,
making the crucial point that gay rights are fundamental civil rights.»
What counts is that we are all united and get
marriage passed in New York and it will take everyone
working together to
make it happen.
Opponents, which included an odd coalition of the Catholic Church and women's advocacy groups, argued no - fault divorce debases
marriage,
making it too easy for couples who should be
working out their problems to throw in the towel (the church) and suggested it will now be too easy for the wealthier spouse — usually the man — to leave their partners without adequate resources (NOW - NYS President Marica Pappas blasted
what she dubbed «divorce on demand»).
Even though I'd like to have a significant other, I can't even imagine
what it would have been like trying to find jobs for two people that would allow us to live where we wanted without having a commuter
marriage — which, although some people have
made it
work, isn't something I'm eager to try.
Shepard had Bell on the first episode, and listeners got an inside look at their sweeter and more difficult moments, as well as exactly
what makes the duo's
marriage work so well (spoiler alert: There's a story about
what Bell did when Shepard's dad was sick that will
make your heart melt).
His most popular book, The Seven Principles, has sold more than a million copies, and is based on his pioneering
work studying real
marriages and
what makes them succeed — or fail.
It was launched, in 2000, by Neil Clark Warren, a clinical psychologist who had spent three decades treating and studying married couples and
working out theories about
what made their
marriages succeed or fail.
After 35 years of
marriage, Dr. Heavenly has learned a thing or two about
what makes relationships
work.
WebMD's article shares tips on
what makes a good date and
what to do if it doesn't Traditional personal advice and opinion column for questions about
marriage, family, teens, divorce, dating, neighbors,
work, relationship problems, dear
No one is expecting an in - depth look into
what it takes to actually
make a
marriage work out of a Farrelly brothers film (or any relationship comedy about
marriage, really).
I respect their
work, I respect them as filmmakers, but I wasn't quite sure if there would be a good
marriage between
what I'm trying to pursue and the
work that I'm doing and
what they're doing, but they helped
make that real clear to me early on by expressing some real interesting story [and] photographic ideas that really resonated with me.
But if the construction is awkward, the film's balancing of tones is surprisingly deft;
what begins as a raucously funny rom - com for the «Sideways» set gradually segues into a more melancholy study of
what it takes to
make relationships
work, in or out of
marriage, before the third act slides effectively into unisex weepie territory.
Director Yasemin Samdereli
worked through doubts about her own
marriage by
making a documentary about long - term relationships and
what makes them last.
I Give It a Year has a novel premise at its core, which is, «
What happens when the typical rom - com couple of the funny, loveable man and the alluring, romantic woman actually try to
make marriage work when they barely know each other?»
The irony is, forcing the most stubborn of women into
marriage so he can break her down and finally claim her isn't even
what Marnie really explores (although Marnie does manage to hold the mirror is mental illness up toward him), but the duality of the union between controlling male and mercurial female (not dissimilar from Shakespeare's «Taming of the Shrew») is
what ultimately
make Marnie such a subtly complex
work.
The issue is not that the film fails to «repair» these three
marriages, or to showcase some sort of profound personal growth in these individuals; for a movie that seems sincerely curious about
what makes healthy relationships
work, it taps only into their most familiar problems, and then relies on cute, superficial solutions to them.