While avoidant partners are often not very confrontational, anxious partners can be very volatile and react with extreme emotions if they think something is going wrong.
Not exact matches
Those with
avoidant attachment styles are more hesitant to become close to others as a general rule and appreciate more solo time,
while anxious attachment styles desire greater closeness and might have unrealistic expectations about their
partner's comfort around intimacy.
Anxious individuals tend to strongly desire relationships and want to be especially close to their
partners,
while avoidant people generally desire less closeness, are less trusting and less reliant on their
partners.
Studies suggest that
partners living in unsatisfied marriages use
avoidant style in managing conflict,
while satisfied
partners use collaboration style.
So what we know from research is that the more
avoidant folks who compartmentalize sex actually enjoy sex less because if you think about it it's kind of one dimensional and their
partners usually find it aversive after
while if they want a relationship.
Therefore, positive responses from the
partner may have reinforced secure selections,
while negative responses may have punished anxious or
avoidant choices.