I think he pretended to be
the wife of an alcoholic in one of the chapters, and he definitely lied about his past.
^ New Primer on Alcoholism by Marty Mann, in a chapter on «What to Do About an Alcoholic,» has sections entitled «If You Are
the Wife of an Alcoholic» (206 - 13), «If You Are the Husband of an Alcoholic» (213 - 17), «If You Are the Son or Daughter» (217 - 19), «If You Are a Friend» (219 - 21), and «If You Are the Employer» (221 - 24).
One study showed that when marital bonds are dissolved by death or divorce,
the wives of alcoholics frequently marry another alcoholic.
Some wives of alcoholics hold tenaciously to their masochistic, martyrish, controlling postures.
S. Futterman, «Personality Trends in «
Wives of Alcoholics,» Journal of Psychiatric Social Work, XXIII (1953), 37 - 41; T. Whalen, «
Wives of Alcoholics.
This can be very lonely for the husband or
wife of an alcoholic.
Not exact matches
The
wife of a recovering
alcoholic said, «We didn't expect to get reconnected with a higher Power and to rejoin the human race as a result
of Ben's alcoholism, but that's just what happened to us in AA and Al - Anon.»
In the same direction, short - term marriage counseling can be useful in assisting the
alcoholic and his
wife to adjust to the demands
of sobriety and to make their relationship more mutually satisfying and fulfilling.
Fitzgerald, an
alcoholic, died
of a heart attack in 1940, with his mistress nearby; his
wife, the emotionally troubled Zelda, long confined to an asylum, followed eight years later, the victim
of a terrible fire.
Jellinek once told
of discussing an
alcoholic's relationship with his
wife and
of doing so, not in terms
of «your
wife,» but in terms
of his relation with his own
wife.
Since there are at least four times as many
wives as husbands
of alcoholics, the words «she» and «
wife» will be used generally throughout this discussion.
Here are some implications
of this approach, by way
of summary: (1) Focusing on why the
wife married an
alcoholic or a potential
alcoholic is definitely contraindicated.
The Big Book
of AA recommends to
wives of still - drinking
alcoholics:
When we recall the variety
of types
of relationships represented by those close to
alcoholics who have come — in my case for instance this includes a husband,
wife, daughter, son, mother, father, fiancée, nephew, sister - in - law, neighbor, intimate friend — we realize that this estimate may not be far from accurate.
The book
Alcoholics Anonymous contains an example, written by the
wives of early members,
of how a
wife might avoid overprotecting the
alcoholic:
This surrender invariably produces beneficial results in the lives
of the
wife and children, insulating them emotionally from much
of the destructiveness resulting from the
alcoholic's drinking.
In the chapter «To
Wives» in the original edition of the Big Book, the wives of the first hundred AA's wrote to the wives of other alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.&r
Wives» in the original edition
of the Big Book, the
wives of the first hundred AA's wrote to the wives of other alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.&r
wives of the first hundred AA's wrote to the
wives of other alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.&r
wives of other
alcoholics: «If God can solve the age - old riddle
of alcoholism, he can solve your problem, too.»
The message
of this fictional fragment — that behind the
alcoholic is a
wife who subtly «drives him to drink» — is a common theme in the folklore
of our culture.
As suggested in Chapter 9, the most salutary thing the
wife of a drinking
alcoholic can do is to «release» him.
It is possible for the minister unwittingly to block rather than facilitate the
wife's release
of the
alcoholic.
At the close
of the first interview, the educational phase
of the counseling can be expedited by lending the
wife one
of the books or pamphlets listed earlier, or a copy
of Alcoholics Anonymous.
For a description
of one approach to group marriage counseling see Genevieve Burton, «Group Counseling with
Alcoholics and Their Nonalcoholic
Wives,» Marriage and Family Living, XXIV (February, 1962).
One
of the Yale ministers told
of helping to sobriety an
alcoholic whom he had never had an opportunity to see, by helping the
wife to change her attitudes toward him.
Even when rehabilitation is most successful there are the strains
of accepting the
alcoholic as he experiments with new patterns
of relating to his
wife and children.
His ex
wife is a bi - polar /
alcoholic / drug addict who refuses to see her kids most
of the time.
But Prophet Owusu Bempah defended his
wife saying that she has never tasted anything
alcoholic not to talk
of akpeteshie because she hates it.
He gets into the business
of an
alcoholic and his cheating
wife.
Cooper is to make a remarkable intervention in the lives
of a dysfunctional local family, whose appallingly inadequate paterfamilias is Ansel (Thomas Haden Church), a welder
of low ambition and low IQ, acrimoniously divorced from his
alcoholic wife, and now living with his dubiously loyal girlfriend Sharla (Gina Gershon), who has the unfortunate habit
of answering the door naked from the waist down.
A not - so - functional
alcoholic with a long - suffering
wife and two grown sons, Woody seems to be rapidly approaching the end
of self - sufficiency.
And every story turns on sharp moments
of awakening: Rose Byrne's battered, trailer - park
wife encounters God, Hugo Weaving's
alcoholic hermit reunites with his estranged son, Cate Blanchett's suburban everywoman finally clicks with her mother - in - law.
Along the way she meets an
alcoholic police officer (Strathairn, Fracture) mourning over the
wife (Weisz, Eragon) who has left him, as well as a young lady gambler (Portman, Goya's Ghosts) who is always on the verge
of the next big pot.
Paul Thomas Anderson's latest historical drama is another
of his studies
of a lost boy and his charismatic parental substitutes, as
alcoholic World War II veteran Joaquin Phoenix stumbles into the circle
of cult leader Philip Seymour Hoffman and his
wife Amy Adams.
They search everywhere for it, and are mistaken for a couple
of hit men hired by an
alcoholic womanizer (Willis, Twelve Monkeys) to «do» (i.e. kill) his
wife (Moore, A Few Good Men).
He leaves his
alcoholic wife and realizes his dream
of opening a restaurant in Helsinki.
A mother and
wife to an
alcoholic dockworker, Larsson (played by Maria Heiskanen) came to taking pictures by chance and continued out
of passion and talent, snapping portraits
of her neighbors and even making a small business when her husband (Mikael Persbrandt) was in jail or serving in World War II.
Before such revelations can materialize, The Terror establishes the primary, thorny relationship between confident and upbeat Franklin (Ciaran Hinds) and the stout but
alcoholic Crozier (Jared Harris), the latter
of whom embarks on this undertaking after — per flashbacks — his attempts to marry Franklin's daughter Sophie (Sian Brooke) are shot down by both Franklin and his
wife Lady Jane (Greta Scacchi).
That especially applies to the mother
of the stolen — or possibly rescued — baby, an
alcoholic trophy
wife whose regrets over bad mothering come too late.
On her guest list: Old - time diva actress Carlotta Vance (Marie Dressler); washed - up
alcoholic Hollywood actor Larry Renault (John Barrymore, in an astounding piece
of self - revelation and a classic
of the actor «s art), who's romancing their twentyish daughter Paula (Madge Evans); voracious business shark Dan Packard (Wallace Beery) and his feisty platinum - blonde trophy
wife Kitty (Harlow, in one
of her best roles); smooth society doctor (and Kitty's lover) Wayne Talbot (Edmund Lowe) and his tolerant
wife (Karen Morley); and Paula's hapless society beau (Phillips Holmes).
Most
of them were also mad — deranged,
alcoholic, obsessive
wives, lovers or eccentric dames, driven crazy by love and need.
And he ignores his
alcoholic father, who is prone to outbursts
of anger as he struggles to raise his two boys after the loss
of his
wife and their mother.
The slaughter
of Max's
wife and daughter in the previous installments has taken quite a huge toll on our
alcoholic ex-cop protagonist; even on the job, Max spends his time drinking and numbing his mind with his other vice, painkillers.
You and your
wife go on a cruise and have a night
of dancing and fun and you also consume
alcoholic beverages.
-- Written by the
wife of a recovering
alcoholic
A
wife may cover for her
alcoholic husband; a mother may make excuses for a truant child; or a father may «pull some strings» to keep his child from suffering the consequences
of delinquent behavior.