Jim is developing this 2 - Day master class from his own similar experiences
with Blamers along the way, from the common themes of supervisees and core skills participants, and ongoing stumbling blocks he experiences in session.
Not exact matches
Personally, I do my best to avoid working
with anyone who had developed a reputation as a «
blamer.»
As they process the clearly laid out exercise and take the steps one at a time, the structure keeps the conversation safe and manageable while I use my skills as an attachment - oriented observer to help the withdrawn spouse re-engage a little bit, share some risky emotions, or I help the
blamer soften their internal dialogue and reach out
with tenderness.
• Attack / withdraw (or
blamer / placater)- one partner blames and criticises the other, often stating that they never initiate anything, aren't capable of real connection or don't care; while the other partner withdraws into work, television, their relationship
with the children or golf, for example.
Certified EFT Therapist, Supervisor and Trainer Debi Scimeca - Diaz, LMFT presented on «
Blamer Softening
with a Lesbian Couple»
An in - depth, experiential exploration of Steps 5 - 7 of EFT
with pursuers, «
blamer softening.»
Session 4 - continues to focus on working
with primary emotion, and places special emphasis on
blamer softening.