As a Lactation Consultant, my background and experience (as a mother of three and a Mother Infant Health Care Provider for more than 20 years, and through my past and ongoing education) tends to line up more closely with Sears and Sears, Leidloff, and many others about our being a Constant Contact species
with attachment to mother first, which leads to how we then attach to others.
Not exact matches
The distinction between the nuclear and traditional family was also blurred in the recent report on human sexuality by the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) titled Keeping Body and Soul Together: «Although many Christians in the post-World War II era have a special emotional
attachment to the nuclear family,
with its employed father,
mother at home, and two or more school - aged children, that profile currently fits only 5 percent of North American households.»
Working
to normalize
attachment and nursing
with our
mothers, Heartline is committed
to ensuring a
mother's connection
to their child, empowering them
to believe that they are the best
mother for their child.
To allow «overnights» away from his primary
attachment figure (
mother) and in an unfamiliar setting would be stressful and traumatic,
with long - range and even lifetime negative consequences!
Natural parenting and
attachment parenting practices, too, place undue pressures on
mothers, and might be deliberately architected
with the sexist aim of controlling women's bodies and keeping them tied
to the home, says Amy Tuteur in her provocative polemic, Push Back: Guilt in the Age of Natural Parenting.
One study in Germany several years ago examined specific ways in which fathers and
mothers cultivate close
attachments with their children during the early years, and which of those early parental practices lead
to deeper, long - term
attachments during later stages of childhood.
I was drawn
to attachment parenting through a series of random events and a background of being raised by a
mother who was involved
with La Leche League.
Mothers are more likely
to have difficulties forming an
attachment with the infant.20, 25 This may be because women are less likely
to hold and breastfeed their infants after birth and have rooming - in and because of the difficulties of caring for an infant while recovering from major surgery.Babies are less likely
to be breastfed.9 The adverse health consequences of formula feeding are numerous and can be severe.
• Greater father involvement in infant care and other household tasks is linked
with lower parenting stress and depression in
mothers (for review, see Fisher et al, 2006) and is therefore likely
to enhance
mother - infant
attachment security.
«Troubles» between the parents can also influence each parent's relationship
with their child: for example couple conflict is negatively related
to both child -
mother and child - father
attachment (Frosch et al, 2000).
Babies are born
with the tendency
to display certain innate behaviors (called social releasers) which help ensure proximity and contact
with the
mother or
attachment figure (e.g., crying, smiling, crawling, etc.)-- these are species - specific behaviors.
Appropriate mind - minded comments have been linked
with secure
attachments to fathers as well as
mothers (Lundy 2003).
Additionally, a breastfed toddler will learn
to comfort himself at the breast, increasing his healthy
attachment with his
mother while also decreasing his tendencies toward fits and tantrums.
«There's so much discussion about bonding
with a new baby that
mothers often feel guilty if they don't feel some incredible
attachment to their new baby immediately,» says Edward Christophersen, a pediatric psychologist in Kansas City, Missouri.
Each woman who becomes a
mother wants
to have a solid, strong, and healthy
attachment with her baby.
They have drunk the Sears Kool - Aid that 24/7 nursing, holding, «bonding»
with your baby is the only way
to secure the
mother baby
attachment.
The last limitations
to the
attachment model is that the
mother is viewed as the primary
attachment figure, when in fact, a father or sibling can have the same type of
attachment with the infant at the same time.
The quality of adolescents» friendships: Associations
with mothers» interpersonal relationships,
attachments to parents and friends, and prosocial behaviors.
>> Second, in response
to Abbi, it seems
to me that if there is a strong primary
attachment, say
with the
mother, she would already be aware of the problem and taking steps
to stop it.
Remember too, that children
with attachment disorders often exhibit their worst symptoms
to their parents, especially their
mothers, while charming others.
I found a psychologist who deals
with attachment - only
to discover that she only works
with mothers who feel themselves unable
to bond
with their birth children.
What I wish I could say out loud, but will do cowardly in print instead, is
to express the desire
to respond in kind...» So, my adoptive
mother read everything under the sun about
attachment and diagnosed me
with reactive
attachment disorder.
We met
with a psychologist during our adoption and she (and those in her profession) actually encourage adopted
mothers to nurse their children (even if they are 3 or 4) because bonding and
attachment is so vitally important
to becoming a successful adult.
Allowing the
mother to nurse in the operating room, keeping
mother and baby together in the recovery room, and having newborn tests and procedures done
with the baby on mom's chest are other ways that a family - centered cesarean can support early
attachment.
While she took time off
to raise two children, she collaborated
with several colleagues in researching, filming and writing articles on
mother - infant bonding,
attachment and separation.
Attachment Parenting International (API) encourages all
mothers to consider hiring a doula,
to be in frequent contact
with a breastfeeding specialist and
to connect
with their local API Leaders and API Support Groups.
But, going back
to your post, one of the things I loved best about this book was the way that she challenges the all - consuming
attachment parenting norm (along
with any other norm you can think of), painting
mothers as free agents, making difficult choices for their own and their childrens» survival.
Post-partum depression poses substantial adverse consequences for
mothers and their infants via multiple direct biological (i.e., medication exposure, maternal genetic factors) and environmental (i.e., life
with a depressed
mother) mechanisms.8, 9 From the earliest newborn period, infants are very sensitive
to the emotional states of their
mothers and other caregivers.10, 11 Maternal mood and behaviour appear
to compromise infant social, emotional and cognitive functioning.11 - 15 As children grow, the impact of maternal mental illness appears as cognitive compromise, insecure
attachment and behavioural difficulties during the preschool and school periods.6,16 - 19
Don't think has anything
to do
with mothers attachment!
The uterine muscle fibres shorten, or retract,
with each contraction, leading
to a gradual decrease in the size of the uterus, which helps
to shear the placenta away from its
attachment site on the
mother's uterine wall.
To allow «overnights» away from his primary
attachment figure (
mother) and in an unfamiliar setting would be stressful and traumatic,
with long range and even lifetime negative consequences!
It's important for me, as an
Attachment Parenting
mother,
to treat my children
with love and respect, but it's also important for me
to treat my spouse
with love and respect.
My sister has even begun
to adapt some of her
mothering styles after
attachment parenting styles
with her youngest out of 6.
This early skin -
to - skin care has also been shown
to significantly improve
mother's milk volume, a common challenge
with preterm births, and it improves
mother's
attachment and maternal behaviors.
found that depressed
mothers with lower levels of
attachment anxiety showed improvements in sensitivity
to child cues relative
to those
with higher levels of
attachment anxiety and those who did not receive home visiting.
Objective:
To examine the association of breastfeeding
with maternal sensitive responsiveness and infant -
mother attachment security and disorganization.
Rooming - in, demand feeding, proper techniques of
attachment, positioning and expression of breastmilk coupled
with appropriate support
to the
mother is crucial
to establishment of successful lactation.
AP brings balance and self - acceptance
to mothers, embracing our imperfections and even recognizing how the repairs we make
with our children strengthen and grow the
attachment relationship.
Many AP moms work outside the home: «[Sears] says about 60 % of
mothers with children in his pediatric practice work outside their homes, and indeed, some career
mothers are drawn
to an
attachment parenting model that helps them get close
to their babies when they finally come home from work.»
Nature, through the nurturing hormones, gives a hand
to mothers in creating secure
attachments with their babies.
As more
mothers are empowered
to trust their own maternal instincts and abilities over industry - driven advice, more and more
mothers are coming
to understand and enjoy their unique capacity
to provide superior nutrition along
with the emotional
attachment that comes
with nursing a baby.
I know many people want
to stay current
with the latest parenting trends —
attachment parenting, minimalist parenting, Tiger
Mother parenting, et al..
I no longer need
to be
with a group of
mothers who understand why I'd want
to breastfeed twins or why I'd want
to practice an
attachment style of parenting.
Although I wanted
to help other
mothers breastfeed multiples and find which parenting tips worked — and which ones didn't, I also needed
to be
with the only other
mothers I knew could truly understand what I and our family was going through but also understand why breastfeeding and
attachment parenting still mattered.
As I discuss here in this video, most babies will latch on the best when they are supported
to self - attach on their own,
with the
mother in the «laid - back» breastfeeding position, or self -
attachment in the «koala» hold.
Babies and toddlers who have developed secure
attachments with caregivers — who have come
to trust, through prior experience, that these adults are available and sensitive
to their needs — use these caregivers as
mother ships from which
to explore the world.
Some
mothers find that skin -
to - skin contact and letting her baby find her breast using his instincts and other techniques
to help improve positioning and
attachment can help
with the above.
Not only is mom's ability
to function at home and work compromised, babies
with depressed
mothers have been shown
to have diminished cognitive development and are more prone
to forming an insecure
attachment to their
mothers.
Sage Parenting: Where Nature Meets Nurture is similar
to What
to Expect When You're Expecting in that it documents the course of events beginning
with pregnancy and covers topics such as sleeping arrangement and breastfeeding, but the author ventures into topics that mainstream authors dare not go such as
mother guilt, bed - sharing, discipline and
attachment.
A new
mother with postpartum depression also might withdraw from friends or family and have difficulty forming an emotional
attachment to her baby.