What a securely attached child - OR ADULT - looks like: competent, self - confident, resilient, cheerful
much of the time, anticipating people's needs (not from a co-dependent place), empathic, humorous, playful, tries harder in the face of adversity; not vulnerable to approach by strangers because won't go to strangers (as adult, out - going
without being foolhardy), good self - esteem, achieving, able to use all mental, physical, emotional resources fully, responsive, affectionate, able to make deep commitments as appropriate, able to be self - disclosing as appropriate, able to be available emotionally as appropriate, able to interact well with others at school and in jobs / careers, likely to be more physically healthy throughout life, self - responsible, giving from a «good heart» place of
compassion, has true autonomy, no co-dependent self, because of well developed internal modulation system, less likely to turn to external «devices» (addictions) to modulate affect