Milk is usually formula but a doctor told me that it was fine to feed a baby cows milk cut with water, that they just make
women feel guilty to sell formula.
«Many
women feel guilty taking time for themselves, but for happiness and good health, you need an inspiring purpose,» says Andrea Pennington, an integrative medicine physician and wellness coach.
We have to find balance between promoting breastmilk as the healthiest food option for babies, and making
women feel guilty about being unable to breastfeed.
It seems like every aspect of motherhood has some sort insidious aspect of it, designed by a patriarchal society to make
women feel guilty for feeling anything other than what some nebulous entity has decided they should feel, or making a decision that doesn't follow some pre-determined path.
«I will not make
women feel guilty for not breastfeeding, because I don't want to feel guilty for my child not being breastfed».
As for promoting guilt, when we pussyfoot around about making
women feel guilty, we are patronising them — how can anyone make an informed choice if information is deliberately withheld?
Too many
women feel guilty or disappointed that they didn't get the delivery experience they dreamed of, but that's like feeling guilty or disappointed that you didn't get the plane trip you dreamed of.
It is wrong to make
women feel guilty for doing what is natural, good for Mom, and good for Baby, rather than educate them on how to do it safely.
The notion of a Mom happily taking care of the kids and house all day * by herself * is a nutty 20th Century notion that seems to have been invented for the sole purpose of making
women feel guilty.
It is about deliberately making
some women feel guilty so other women can feel superior to them.
In one oddly worded article, Dr. Jack Newman, author of The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers, writes that the concept of mother guilt is just another ploy of breastfeeding detractors; that we should not stop promoting breastfeeding just because it makes
women feel guilty.
They have done everything in their power to make men and
women feel guilty about having sex with each other, while the leadership was having homosexual relations behind closed doors.
«So often, I see so many
women feel guilty [about their work - life balance], but they isolate it.
In order to prevent
women feeling guilty about not breastfeeding what is required is not avoiding promotion of breastfeeding, but promotion of breastfeeding coupled with good, knowledgeable and skillful support.
(Not pressuring her to breastfeed, it should be noted, because «you wouldn't want to make
a woman feel guilty for not breastfeeding».)
No group should make
a woman feel guilty about the decisions she made. . .
TV makeover shows and glossy magazines can leave
women feeling guilty for not wearing «sexy» lingerie — especially on Valentine's Day.
Maybe I'm just tired of simpering weak
women feeling guilty about the past.
Not exact matches
The same way no one should
feel guilty about, say, wanting to hurt others, stealing money, or raping
women.
A
woman may also
feel guilty for helping to prosecute a man who continues to profess his love for her.
Religion teaches
women who've had abortions that they really, really need to
feel guilty for having murdered their babies.
She
felt guilty if she did not sing in the choir, attend all
women's meetings and teach Sunday school.
If the
woman has truly done nothing wrong, then she should never
feel guilty or shameful, now should she?
Rachel: Kathy, What can Christian
women do to recognize and celebrate their ambitions rather than
feel guilty about them?
Guilt,
guilty knowledge, and
guilty feelings are not the same thing; men and
women can have the knowledge without the
feelings, and they can have the
feelings without the fact.
Women are made to
feel guilty for trying to acquire an independent source of income.
As
woman you subconsiously
feel guilty for not fitting that role and it can really wear a soul down.
I think religion has made
women feel far more
guilty than men about their natural urges.
However, please can we not treat every man as if they are not
guilty before proven innocent and not treat every
woman as if they have nothing to take ownership for with their
feelings and conduct either?
Again in order that this issue be addressed can we whilst being attentive to the justice and equality needs of
women not create a society of fear and retribution where every man is treated s
guilty before being proven innocent and not treat every
woman as if they have nothing to take ownership for with their
feelings and conduct either?
So I just don't get the «too much pressure to breastfeed» when all around me are images of bottles, ads for formula telling me a happy feeding makes a happy mom, bottlefeeding moms, moms and doctors and nurses telling new moms that formula is «just as good» and «not to
feel guilty»,
women getting «the look» for nursing in public, or
feeling weird about doing it (I sure did)-- to me, any pressure out there is NOT to breastfeed, or do it as little as possible (not if it's not immediately easy or you don't love every minute, not past 6 mos, not in public, not around male relatives and friends, not around children, not if you ever want to go out alone sometime...)
I really loved Natasha's (Natural Urban Mama's) post about this, http://blog.naturalurbanmamas.com/?p=1998, because she calls attention to the fact that
women are
feeling so
guilty and ashamed about their parenting choices that they are projecting it onto this issue when it is so obviously not about that.
Women don't seek out the support that is there because they're afraid that if they ultimately decide to formula - feed they will be made to
feel guilty about not trying harder.
Regarding the pressure to breastfeed, Tuteur says the movement makes mothers who have difficulty
feel unduly
guilty — and the supposed long - term health benefits that motivate
women to breastfeed are not definitive.
Looking back at how I behaved with other
women on message forums and real life, I
feel extremely
guilty.
I was made to
feel guilty and still
feel a little jealous when I see other
women do it successfully.
The line is firmly tongue - in - cheek, but the truth is
women often
feel guilty for receiving any kind of intervention during labor, from IV medication to a vacuum extraction to a c - section.
And why do so many
women report
feeling guilty for discontinuing or supplementing?
Women do
feel guilty if they don't breastfeed but they need to be shown how to breastfeed properly and alternatives such as pumping.
While we can argue whether
women themselves are entirely, or even predominantly, responsible for constantly
feeling guilty, I see so much truth in...
If you were planning to have a natural birth but change your mind during labour, you shouldn't
feel disappointed or
guilty; although most
women are told about the pain caused by labour, nothing can prepare you for the actual
feeling and if you can't handle the pain without a little help this is completely normal.
In Fear of Flying, Erica Jong said, «Show me a
woman who doesn't
feel guilty and I'll show you a man.»
As
women, we're made to
feel guilty if we don't want to become mothers.
It is also encouraging for
women who would like to supplement, but
feel guilty about it.
Women should do what they want regarding this issue and not
feel guilty.
As a society, breastfeeding needs to be encouraged, but in a gentle and supportive way, and
women who have problems should be offered help, and not made to
feel guilty when they cant
When it comes down to it, my right to ensure that my baby doesn't get exposed to formula trumps the rights of adult
women not to
feel guilty or the victims of paternalism.
It foists on
women a particular paradigm of what a mother «should be» in such a way that a) can make her
feel guilty for not conforming within those parameters b) limits her ability to figure out her own version of motherhood that would better benefit everyone in the family unit because she's so busy handling everything on her own.
I read a great article by an MD that talks about how doctors are afraid to really educate
women on the benefits of breastfeeding because they don't want to make moms
feel guilty.
Seeking help shouldn't be something that new fathers put off, for like
women who suffer from postpartum depression, dads can also experience those scary symptoms like
feeling guilty about their childcare or wanting to cause harm to themselves or their children.