FINALLY we have some solid evidence and stories to back up what many of us have known for
years about Attachment Parenting and staying close to our children.
Not exact matches
Follow along to learn more
about this
year's theme, and enjoy
parent stories, API support group events, daily tips, the photo gallery, the AP Month Auction (Oct 18 - 31), and much more on the importance of early secure
attachment for our children, families, and society.
On the
Attachment Parenting Blog API Speaks, Sarah wrote
about the one and only time her now 7 -
year - old son was spanked (back when he was 18 months old and by the hand of her mother - in - law) in her post His Only Spank.
After living through these earliest
years with
about as much
attachment style
parenting as possible, including baby wearing, extended nursing, family bed, empathic listening, and a nurturing, mindful environment, I've been asked to share some ideas
about thriving, not just surviving, these early
years.
Just
years later I found out
about Attachment Parenting and realized that I was an attached
parent without knowing it.
When thinking
about this
year's
Attachment Parenting (AP) Month theme — «Cherishing
Parents, Flourishing Children» — I wanted to be sure I really understood the meaning of «cherish» and «flourish.»
I had a lot more to learn
about child rearing than the introduction the hospital gave me and I had a setback early on regarding discipline, but through the
years,
Attachment Parenting has transformed the way I look at myself, my children, my spouse, my community, my world.
and Allen Schore The
Attachment Connection sorts out the facts from the fiction about parent - child attachment and shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child, particularly during the first five years of development, can help him or her grow up happy, secure, and
Attachment Connection sorts out the facts from the fiction
about parent - child
attachment and shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child, particularly during the first five years of development, can help him or her grow up happy, secure, and
attachment and shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child, particularly during the first five
years of development, can help him or her grow up happy, secure, and confident.
She has been an advocate for
attachment parenting since she learned
about it when her child was born 6
years ago.
As an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant who has spent the last 4
years writing
about my adventures in breastfeeding and
attachment parenting on my blog and in my book, I thought that this would be a good opportunity to debunk the shit out of this topic... and article.
Although the US falls behind other nations when it comes to extended breastfeeding - or breastfeeding past infancy - a study referenced by Kelly Mom notes that the average weaning age for US moms who practice
attachment parenting is
about 2.5
years.
Brain research has progressed to the extent that we now know that babies need their primary caregivers close to normally develop that sense of security (secure
attachment) in the first few
years and that
parenting is not a 9 - 5 job; babies don't care
about clocks, you know.
I never thought of
attachment parenting with any interest until
about a
year ago, right after Bella was born.
to me
attachment parenting is
about forming a strong
attachment in the first
year or two, and helping facilitate your child forming strong
attachments with other adulats after that.
About 20
years ago, Dr.William Sears began using the term «
attachment parenting» to describe these biologically sound birthing and nurturing practices.
I am not sure if he can prove this, but it has probably been concluded from 40
years of experience in hearing woman say that they felt better
about what they were doing when living by
attachment principals, rather than other methods of
parenting that have been taught in the past, and have become extremely popular, like crying it out, and babies sleeping in cribs.
If you think back to that cover
about the
attachment parenting and the mother feeding her three
year old, you know, I mean obviously it would be great if we had a copy of that in front of us now, and maybe somebody listening can pull that up on their PC while their listening.
These changes began
about 13
years ago while trying to
parent our adopted girl who was diagnosed with Reactive
Attachment Disorder.
Some of these things need to be addressed immediately (i.e.
attachment disorder) while others may not need to be tackled for several
years (i.e. questions from your child
about his or her birth
parents).
And other results produced by Femmie Juffer of Leiden University, The Netherlands, studying adopted children (Juffer 2005): if adoptive
parents have a number of consultations with an advisor
about common
attachment problems for one
year after adoption, more children will display a secure / autonomous
attachment, compared to a control group of non-advised adoptive
parents.
Policies covering
about one
year of fully job ‑ protected leave and targeting
parents with strong prior labour force
attachment with benefits covering close to full wage replacement, and with a guaranteed place for a child from the age of one, in a good quality, affordable, out - of - home care facility appear to be garnering support.
Follow along to learn more
about this
year's theme, and enjoy
parent stories, API support group events, daily tips, the photo gallery, the AP Month Auction (Oct 18 - 31), and much more on the importance of early secure
attachment for our children, families, and society.
After living through these earliest
years with
about as much
attachment style
parenting as possible, including baby wearing, extended nursing, family bed, empathic listening, and a nurturing, mindful environment, I've been asked to share some ideas
about thriving, not just surviving, these early
years.
I might add that I did not begin my
parenting years with this knowledge, thinking then only
about the numerous benefits of
attachment parenting, but learned it the «old fashioned way» — through fatigue, overwhelm and stress.