The word "controlling" means having authority or power over someone or something and making them do what you want. It can also refer to managing or directing a situation or outcome. Full definition
As for this business of control of self, I consider it just as important, in some ways more so. (si.com)
You can set a desired speed while maintaining a set time interval between you and the car detected ahead — allowing you to enjoy the benefits of cruise control in light traffic conditions. (acura.com)
The latter delusion has kept the masses in control for over 2,000 years. (religion.blogs.cnn.com)