An old parenting style «urge» is an automatic, almost instinctive reaction of forcing my will upon my child because it seems like the easiest and fastest solution. (positive-parenting-ally.com)
As Steel explains it, the tendency results from the tension between the cerebral cortex — the thoughtful part of the brain — and the limbic system, from which our more instinctive reactions derive. (canadianbusiness.com)
In our own case I think we have such sophisticated potential actions we no longer have these simple instinctive reactions. (religion-online.org)