You have accepted that you can not change your partner, and you are just letting your partner know what you are going to do the next time this behavior occurs. (mindbodygreen.com)
Alternatively it could arguably be a projection of an underlying desire to change within oneself — it is of course easier to focus on changing your partner as opposed to yourself. (elitesingles.ie)
In one study, couples had two discussions in which they talked about changes each partner wanted to see in the other. (scienceofrelationships.com)