Again, I don't know the situation in your country, so maybe some other folks can help. (money.stackexchange.com)
I don't know the situation in your area, but if the sheriff hasn't served your spouse in 2 months, hiring a special process server probably makes sense. (karencovy.com)
Mediation provides a setting, with expert guidance, that allows those who know the situation best (you) to determine the outcome. (familydisputesolutions.com)