Even if a couple
comes to therapy with goals out of alignment - or one party unsure if they want to stay - couples therapy can work over time.
When people
come to therapy for the first time, it is natural for them to feel nervous and anxious.
While sometimes people
come to therapy in a crisis, persistent sadness or confusion is a perfectly valid and common reason to see a therapist.
I also fear that clients who think their abuse will be reported will be reluctant to
come to therapy at all.
I believe everyone
comes to therapy as a unique human being with a unique issue, and that a compassionate therapeutic relationship is imperative in the process of change.
Most people
come to therapy seeking relief from their pain from depression, anxiety, illness, life transitions, grief, and loss.
Just as every individual who
comes to therapy needs something different, so do the needs of each couple vary from relationship to relationship.
Women tend to rate communication problems, emotional affection, and fears of divorce as the prime reasons for therapy, and
come to therapy hoping for a significant change.
Couples and
individuals coming to therapy with concerns regarding a primary committed love relationship are urged to begin reading one or both of these two outstanding books.
Unfortunately, most marriage counselors report that the majority of couples wait to
come to therapy until the point where the relationship is on the verge of ending.
Numbers 33 — 50 sound too one - size - fits - all; they don't take into account that people may
come to therapy from different places.
I also let them know that
coming to therapy shows courage and hope, and that couples can and do recover if they commit to the work it takes.
People
come to therapy for different reasons but universally people don't initiate counseling unless they are in some type of emotional pain.
Often people
come to therapy feeling hopeless or overwhelmed, but rest assured that through understanding yourself better you can overcome the obstacles that hold you back from success and happiness.
At least 30 percent of
couples coming to therapy have fundamentally different agendas about whether to try to save the marriage.
Although it is wonderful to have both
partners come to therapy, we only need one person to change the steps of the dance.
In at least 30 percent of couples
who come to therapy, partners enter the consulting room with different agendas — one wants a divorce, the other wants to save the marriage.