When your communication is filled with mutual understanding and support, and when you learn to
listen to your partner with empathy and compassion, you will be amazed by the transformation.
So early on in any of your future relationships, it is very important for you to communicate your feelings about cheating and
also listen to your partner about their feelings.
Good communication isn't a one time thing — it's an ongoing process of learning to communicate more clearly and express yourself,
while listening to your partner's thoughts and needs.
Avoid statements of «You never...» or «You always...» A core research finding was that the Masters remained positive in conflict
by listening to their partners without criticizing, becoming defensive, shutting down, or acting superior.
To hear happy couples tell it, the formula that keeps a relationship thriving often
involves listening to your partner more, doing nice things for them, and showing them you support and appreciate them.
Keep in mind that these different parts are a cycle though, so as they come around to completion we use our reflections on learning to re-inform our process
of listening to partners.
«It's the moment we choose to
listen to our partner vent about a bad day instead of returning to our television show,» explains Dana R. Baerger, assistant professor of clinical psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine.
I
sometimes listen to my partner on his opinions of my clothes, and frequently ask him how he thinks an outfit looks (he's my blog - photog afterall), but if I really feel a certain way about something, I usually make my own final decision on how I feel.
Maybe it's because I'm at the New Jersey Charter School Association annual conference and last evening heard Norm Atkins, founder of Uncommon Schools, remark that during Newark's most recent open enrollment cycle half of all Newark kindergarten parents ranked Uncommon as their first choice and
listened to his partner Jamey Verrilli describe school choice as a quest for educational justice.
As you start planning to your tiny dream home, practice being very clear and honest with each other and do your best to really
listen to your partners needs before jumping in to share your own.
Can I also suggest that now it is Lent, some people may be thinking about giving up chocolate, alcohol etc - why not instead do something positive that adds to your life, like resolving to
listen to your partner properly at least once a day?
If you are attempting to play a board game with your partner, text your mother about plans for Sunday, and
empathetically listen to your partner talk about their demanding boss, I can already see the opportunities to miss your partner «s bid for connection.
It is possible to work toward this goal by
listening to partners as they talk to each other (# 1) or talking to each while the other listens (# 2 & # 3).
This may include not speaking up when they felt unhappy,
not listening to their partner, being cold or unaffectionate, flirting with other people, causing distrust, and of course for the affair.
What is important is to be clear about what your partner hopes for, so focus more
on listening to your partner and hearing what they want from the experience, and let them do the same for you.
In the course of individual or couples therapy, and in workshops, we offer assertiveness training — how to express thoughts and feelings in a way that invites your partner into an open, collaborative dialogue; and how to
listen to your partner in a way that shows empathy and understanding.
Listen to your partner's concerns.