KE «it absolutely makes sense for a survivor say angry, even abusive, things back — OR for a survivor to freak out and ask others to stop saying words that seem potentially abusive to them because they want to stop all abusive cycles (which is hardly described as «discomfort»)... can you understand that, perhaps, both sets of actions make sense, both are uncomfortable, and there are times when both may be constructive (or destructive)? (nakedpastor.com)
«OR for a survivor to freak out and ask others to stop saying words that seem potentially abusive to them because they want to stop all abusive cycles (which is hardly described as «discomfort»).» (nakedpastor.com)
UNTIL you feel you can enter the abusive cycle with detachment, it's often better to stay away unless absolutely necessary — I find the analogy of an alcoholic going to a bar to be helpful for me. (nakedpastor.com)