The phrase
"cohabiting parents" refers to a situation where two adults who are not married or in a formal relationship live together and have a child or children. They are raising their children together, but they are not legally married or in a traditional partnership.
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According to the 2013 National Marriage Project report, Knot Yet, children
of cohabiting parents in their twenties are three times more likely to experience the dissolution of their family than children born to married parents.
Mothers also tend to take on more household chores and responsibilities; 41 % of married or
cohabiting parents say this is the case in their households, compared with just 8 % who say the father does more.
David Popenoe, Rutgers University professor of sociology, believes profound differences exist between the relationship of married and that of
unmarried cohabiting parents.
If we make divorce harder, I predict more couples may opt to cohabit instead of marry — and research
on cohabiting parents with kids hasn't been promising, as children often are subjected to several live - in partners.
Data from the Fourth National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect shows that children living with
biological cohabiting parents are over four times as likely to be physically, sexually, and emotionally abused as those living with their own married parents.
In fact, children born to married parents are 44 percent less likely to see their parents break up than are children born to
cohabiting parents in this Scandinavian country.
Instability was also related to family structure at birth: those born into
cohabiting parent families experienced the most instability, followed by those born into single mother families and finally, those in two - biological married parent families.
Married couples tend to be more stable and more financially sound, according to some studies,
while cohabiting parents are more likely to split up.
The pressure they felt to tie the knot supposedly came from their kids (and I suddenly feel a great need to ask my long -
time cohabiting parent friends how — or if — they have dealt with that even though they clearly have resisted that pressure).
What's more,
cohabiting parents meet the Family Test, the criteria used by the state to streamline benefits and for purposes of policy.
This applies both to children whose parents are divorced but still engaged in conflict as well
as cohabiting parents.
We certainly can't ignore this group's input in the survey, yet it is certainly worth noting that 62 % of
cohabiting parents reported that they felt marriage was obsolete.
Child Abuse: While children living with their unmarried biological mother and her live - in boyfriend face a higher risk of suffering child abuse than kids in any other type of family, children who live with their
own cohabiting parents are more likely to be abused than children of married parents.
A quarter of married or
cohabiting parents say the mother plays more of a disciplinarian role in their families, while 15 % say the father does, and 59 % say both share this role equally.
If we make divorce harder, I predict more couples may opt to cohabit instead of marry — and research
on cohabiting parents with kids hasn't been promising, as children often are subjected to several live - in partners.
The FFCWS studies add to a large body of earlier work that suggested that children who live with single or
cohabiting parents fare worse as adolescents and young adults in terms of their educational outcomes, risk of teen birth, and attachment to school and the labor market than do children who grow up in married - couple families.
According to a Child Trends analysis,
cohabiting parents tend to have less education, lower incomes, and less secure employment than married parents.
They suffer more school failure, behavioral problems, drug use, and a greater likelihood of becoming single parents themselves.46 And while many people assume that the children
of cohabiting parents will enjoy the same stability and father time as the children of married parents, that is often not the case in the long run.
As it turns out, there's a long history of children born outside of marriage, often to
cohabiting parents.
While many of those parents are single, about 4 percent of children live with two
cohabiting parents.
Others live with single or
cohabiting parents, in blended or polyamorous families, with grandparents or in multigenerational homes.
Similarly, when it comes to taking care of sick children, 55 % of married or
cohabiting parents say the mother does more than the father; just 4 % say the father does more, and 41 % say both parents share this equally.
When it comes to «who does more» child care as well as household chores and responsibilities among married or
cohabiting parents, both mothers and fathers indicate that mothers usually do more — although a higher share of fathers report that these responsibilities are shared equally.
Unmarried,
cohabiting parents may be putting their kids at risk for a host of personal problems — at least according to a new report from the University of Virgina's National Marriage Project and the Institute for American Values.
One recent estimate from the National Survey of Family Growth found that kids in the mid-2000s born to
cohabiting parents were more than twice as likely to see mom and dad break up by the age of 12 compared to kids born to married parents.
By the time the child is age five, about half of
cohabiting parents will have split up.
All of this is, of course, at a time when cohabitation is on the increase and the number of children born to
cohabiting parents is rocketing.
Shannon Cavanagh and Aletha C. Huston, «Family Instability and Children's Early Problem Behavior,» Social Forces 85, no. 1 (2006): 551 — 81; Cynthia Osborne, Wendy D. Manning, and Pamela J. Smock, «Married and
Cohabiting Parents» Relationship Instability: A Focus on Race and Ethnicity,» Journal of Marriage and Family 69, no. 5 (2007): 1345 — 66; Osborne and McLanahan, «Partnership Instability and Child Well - Being» (see note 23).