I don't think they are hearing me when I describe the potential damage to the kids of
ongoing parental anger, hostility and conflict.
And in the context of unpredictable and intense displays
of parental anger based on an ever changing reality, the child ultimately surrenders to the truth and reality asserted by the borderline parent in order to keep the anger and emotional volatility of the parent regulated and in check.
Found your post by seaching blogs
for parental anger writings, because it's an ongoing struggle for me.
State Education Commissioner John King estimated that 55,000 students had opted out statewide, five times as many as last year,
as parental anger around testing grew.
Over the past year or so, I've been helping parents with yelling and
parental anger through Mama's Village and Mama's Anger Management.
Results also demonstrated pretreatment to posttreatment improvements
in parental anger toward their children, and consistent parenting as well as children's posttraumatic stress symptoms and behavioral problems.
Proactive parenting (i.e., supportive presence, clear instruction, and limit setting) predicted fewer behavior problems over time, after controlling for initial problems; the converse was true
for parental anger.
Nevertheless, there is a significant group of parents for whom standard parent training programmes do not appear to be effective, and there is also some recognition of the need to add components to standard parent training programmes that are aimed at addressing issues such
as parental anger or capacity for self - regulation (Sanders 2004).
I don't think I can stand to think of all
the parental anger being unleashed on those kids.
Levels of
parental anger and physical discipline improved from early to late treatment, with CBT parents showing significantly greater improvement.
Measures included the Beck Depression Inventory — II, the Child Behavior Checklist for Ages 6 - 18 (CBCL 6/18) or the Child Behavior Checklist for Ages 1.5 - 5 (CBCL 1.5 / 5),
the Parental Anger Inventory (PAI), the Kiddie - Sads Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Interview (K - SADS PTSD), the Parent - Child Conflict Tactics Scale, and the Alabama Parenting Questionnaire — Self Report.
Most importantly the children grow up trusting that the adults in their lives put the children's emotional well - being and safety ahead of
parental anger, jealousy or vindictiveness.
Yesterday was another one of
those parental anger management days.