Sentences with phrase «vulnerable emotions»

Most couples also need help sharing more vulnerable emotions such a hurt, loneliness, sadness, and fear.

Parenting is serious business, and because we love our children, parenting becomes a very emotional experience which triggers our deepest and most vulnerable emotions.

She goes on to say that she learned to closely track process in the moment and that key to lasting change was helping partners access and share vulnerable emotions.

Sharing more vulnerable emotions adds another challenge for some men: Once communicated, feelings become more real and even harder to avoid.

It steps in to protect you from more vulnerable emotions, such as shame or fear.

I strive to provide a safe environment that fosters individuals and partners taking risks to express their most vulnerable emotions, to truly hear each other and be fully heard and understood.

They discover and enable the sharing of vulnerable emotions as well as attachment fears and longings all in the service of creating enough safety to re-shape the bond and create a more secure attachment between partners.

So our partner doesn't see that we're really hurting, afraid, or sad, they just see anger or avoidance.So they too will feel a primary vulnerable emotion like hurt, sadness, or fear; but they put up their defense and might get angry or avoid.

Accessing and Deepening Emotions in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) When One or Both Partners are Highly Cognitive or Emotionally Avoidant Accessing and deepening vulnerable emotions that are at first hidden, unspoken, unknown or masked by reactive and protective emotions is one of the most powerful skills of an emotionally focused couples therapist.

«Men often don't want to express vulnerable emotions, while women are much more comfortable expressing sadness or worry.»

Once you let yourself feel the more vulnerable emotions under your anger, they'll evaporate — and so will your anger.

Years from now you will look back on and be reminded of the those first cuddles and tender vulnerable emotions.

Help partners access the more vulnerable emotions underlying repetitive destructive cycles

When I follow a couple into content — often an exit from more vulnerable emotions in the moment — I start to see myself less as a therapist and more as a teacher or referee.

Looking for the «soft» or, vulnerable emotions underneath someone's hard display of anger, will help keep you connected as you are better equipped to empathize with that person's true emotion.

Sharing partner: Check to see how safe and comfortable you feel about opening up and sharing your more vulnerable feelings around the hurt, including your physical sensations, negative words or phrases you say to yourself around the hurt, and rawer, more vulnerable emotions such as fear, sadness, and shame.

We will focus on ways to create safety by deepening and enacting the expression of vulnerable emotions.

Accessing and deepening vulnerable emotions that are at first hidden, unspoken, unknown or masked by reactive and protective emotions is one of the most powerful skills of an emotionally focused couples therapist.

All persons are welcomed by me, for us to find a way through issues and conflicts, by exploring and sharing vulnerable emotions, and taking in empathy and compassion, toward achieving personal goals and the safe, secure, lasting, and loving relationships that you want.

While it is true that angry leaders are perceived by others to wield more power, followers warm more easily to those showing more vulnerable emotions, says Tanja Schwarzmüller of the Technical University of Munich in Germany.

Stay as compassionate as you can, and help him soften into those more vulnerable emotions that are driving him to act out.

Often the cover up for these vulnerable emotions can take the form of acting out, shutting down, avoidance, and defiance.

Once you feel those more vulnerable emotions, they evaporate — and so does the anger.

It also plays on the fragile and vulnerable emotions of new parents like myself, whether or not they are parenting after loss.

Sadness is a primary emotion, and primary emotions are our vulnerable emotions.

Finally, a third reason might be that your vulnerable emotions are not always rational and can seem immature.

The first reason for this difficulty is that you might judge yourself for having your vulnerable emotions.

Although anger at someone, can sometimes serve as the original response to an event, it is more often a way of protecting yourself from a more vulnerable emotion.

Being in a relationship has almost become an exercise in survival, and of course, when we think we need to protect ourselves against hurt from our partner, we are not going to open up to them, acknowledge our insecurities and fears, and count on them to safeguard our most vulnerable emotions.

Instead of saying things like, «it wasn't right when you...» or «you were being very inconsiderate when you», you instead look beneath your self - righteous anger and get in touch with your softer and more vulnerable emotions.

Couples in relationships that are caught in the negative cycle of the dragon, have learned to protect themselves from hurt by withdrawing their most tender and vulnerable emotions, and leading the way with their anger and their coldness.

This emotion is often a response to the more vulnerable emotion that makes a person feel stronger or at least makes the person feel less exposed or vulnerable.

Instead of the softer, more vulnerable emotions, we instead communicate our frustrations and our anger, our jealousy and our self - righteousness.

The second reason, might be that you are not certain that your partner will treat these vulnerable emotions delicately and respectfully.

Exposing and communicating the more vulnerable emotion is what most couples therapist recommend to create and maintain successful relationships.

In order to do this, both you and your partner, need to understand that underneath anger or indifference, often lie needs, longings, and more vulnerable emotions.

Help couples access the vulnerable emotions that underlie their repetitive destructive cycles

Once partners become more aware of their underlying needs, fears, and longings, they are helped to communicate with each other on the basis of these more tender and vulnerable emotions.

These women develop a belief that they must be strong at all times, never show their vulnerable emotions, never allow themselves to depend on others to have their needs met, and always set their own needs aside to take care of others.

He demonstrated how this warm, loving stance with clients helps them access their most vulnerable emotions, revealing them and having them accepted, first by him as a safe attachment and ultimately by their primary attachment figure — their life partner.

It also gives the couple and the therapist a sort of touchstone that can be returned to in future sessions when the cycle resurfaces or either partner struggles to stay with their more vulnerable emotions.

Can they identify a vulnerable emotion related to hurt or fear underneath their typical pursuit or withdrawal — even if they choose not to share it at that moment?

In summary, anger has long been known to be a destructive secondary emotion that hides more vulnerable emotions.

Objective # 5: Participants will be able to demonstrate knowledge of and engage in a Hold Me Tight conversation with their partner including the expression of vulnerable emotions and attachment - related needs.

When we suppress our vulnerable emotions like sadness (like when Riley lets them get lost), our other emotions (fear, disgust, shame, anger) go into overdrive so we don't always understand why we respond so harshly to someone or something until we've taken the time to slow ourselves down and discover the deeper feelings of hurt and sadness and let them have a voice.

Focus on connecting through your vulnerable emotions vs. your angry emotions — «I feel sad when... ``.

Many of us get caught in the trap of getting angry when we feel these vulnerable emotions.

To learn more about your vulnerable emotions, you must feel comfortable enough to focus on them with genuine curiosity and openness.

Anger is almost always a cover for deeper more vulnerable emotions.